POSSIBLE REASONS AND SOLUTIONS FOR INFIDELITY IN MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP.

: Majority of the time, people cheat because they feel their needs or expectations are not being met. Expectations can be in terms of attention/time, money or material possessions and sexual needs or desire. More so, it might be as a result of some habit on behalf of either of the partner which the other partner has been trying to change but couldn't. Am I trying to justify cheaters?  Not at all.

But when someone feels their needs aren’t being met, they will typically take measures to meet those needs.  (And when I say needs, I’m not talking about food or shelter, but emotional needs that are almost as important as food and shelter.)

Imagine a thirteen year old boy who is hungry, starving even, because he hadn’t eaten in days.  If given the opportunity to “steal” to satisfy his hunger, he may succumb to the pressure and “steal.”  Does this make it right?  Certainly not.  Understandable maybe, right, no.  If his parents had given him the needed food, the pressure to steal probably wouldn’t have gotten the best of him.

Now, is it the parent’s fault that the teenager stole? No, he’s responsible for his own actions, but they certainly made it easier for him.  They opened the door for such behavior by not adequately meeting the child’s needs at home.

In a nutshell, people cheat to meet their needs.  If you want to prevent your partner from cheating, you need to find out what their needs are and meet them.  How do you find out what your partners needs are?  You ask them, and then you ask them how you’re ranking in those areas on a scale of 1-10 (have them write it out).  If they rank you relatively low on a particular need, ask them how you can improve.

Your partner may respond saying they need more compliments, more flowers or more appreciation.

By ensuring you’re meeting your partner’s expectations you are closing the door that’s responsible for MOST infidelity.  The unpopular reality is, if you’re in the relationship, you have some responsibility for the relationship, you can’t say I’m 100 percent innocent in the matter (if you’re cheated on).

Recognize your responsibilities by asking what the expectations are, and then meet those expectations (as long as they’re not immoral, illegal or something like that).  If you do this, you will probably not be cheated on.
We should all ensure that we are constantly letting our partners know how much they are needed and appreciated (with our words and actions).

But the question is, what if I’m meeting my partner’s needs and they still cheat?

Well, even though you maybe doing everything you’re supposed to be doing.  You’re probably not meeting all of your partners needs.  Let me explain, some people have a need of wanting more than one partner, because they have refused to bridal their lustful desires (by controlling their thoughts).

Because the need of multiple partners can’t be met by a single partner, they cheat.  I could write an entire series on this, but in short, make sure your partner is comfortable with the idea of being in a committed relationship (with one person, you ) before you proceed any further.

: Another perspective of infidelity is probably the most well known: Spouses cheat because of problems in their relationship - something is missing, passion has faded, partners feel lonely, people find someone who treats them better or who appreciates them more than their current spouse, and so on. Simply stated, people claim that they are not happy in their relationship so they look for love and affection elsewhere.

The million dollar question is, how do I escape this? It is simple. You'll need to trace the origin of your relationship if you really want to escape this. This has to do with looking into how you started your relationship then in which you see each other as source of happiness.

: Another perspective as why partner cheat is more detailed in nature.  This explanation ignores the reasons that people "give" for cheating and looks deeper into our human nature. This tends to explain that it is the human nature to cheat. To some, human beings cannot be satisfied just like a desert. Human beings have insatiable desire truly. The escape route here is to seek counsel, check yourself, and talk to your God

: The jet age reason for infidelity is, "because my spouse or partner is doing it" Since he or she has cheated or is cheating on me let me also pay him or her back in his or her own coin.

This shouldn't be the case. Your partner is cheating on you quite alright but you also cheating on him or her doesn't justify your stand. Instead of paying evil for evil, try to find the missing piece in your relationship and fix it.

Finally, by trying to meet your partner expectations or needs as explained above, restoring the passion and happiness you've built your relationship on from the onset, and relying on God, praying and committing your relationship to God's hand can work wonder and reinstate peace into your marriage or relationship.

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