AN OPEN LETTER TO WOMEN.

Dear women,

You are jewel of inestimable value.

I know the men won't be happy with me when they discover the hidden treasure in this letter. I have the intention of sending it out with utmost secrecy but I have made it open because of the love I have for my mother. In our society today, the real value of the women has been far undervalued, under-appreciated and trampled on. Women played a role in paving the way for men to live better lives.

We tend to value things that we can touch, see, or understand with our logical. But the real essence of who you are as woman is beyond form, dancing in the unseen, intangible realms.
Maybe you didn't get my point. You shouldn't be the one that will be showcasing your treasure in front of a camera because of stipend. Dancing might be your passion but it is all about styles and not showing off your boobs. You can learn lots of dancing steps from Kaffy (a nigerian born dancer popularly known as kaffy, the dancing queen). There you go again half-naked all in the name of fashion. Do you think you can attract real men with this? I doubt ! You can only attract dog.

The magic of the feminine is your mystery.

As a woman, one of your gifts is your profound intuition. You sense, see, and feel things beyond the physical. You know things way in advance. People may call you crazy, unreasonable, even unrealistic, but know that nothing revolutionary was created by dreaming small and buying into limitations.

We need your feminine gifts now on this planet more than ever in human history. We need your vision and your multi-dimensional sensitivity.

You as a woman have that magical ability to breathe life into something where there was nothing and give it form. Out of you, we are all birthed. For every human being alive, you were our first home for nine months. You have the best prison so far. A comfortable prison better than that of Kirikiri and Alagbon in Lagos, Nigeria. Out of you, we were literally formed and came into this world. Without you, we wouldn’t be here.

There is a reason that when you love, you light up a room. Because it comes with happiness. But if I may ask, why are you so mean, deceptive, and dishonest about your true feelings sometimes?

There is a reason that when you give yourself to your man and support him with your heart’s devotion, his entire life transforms giving room for increased income, healthy living and much more.

Your value is not in how you look, how much you weigh, how nice your skin is, whether you have no wrinkles or cellulite. Just you being an open-hearted, radiant, blessing force of love…you are the gift in itself.

So, never sell your heart, body, or soul for love. The love you will get this way isn’t real. And maybe you don't know this. Your power is far beyond the supermodel hips, shining white teeth, beautiful face among others. When people say use what you have to get what you want, they are not telling you to give out your body to be connected or to get what you want. It implies using the knowledge and wisdom bestowed on you by God to find your way. Learn from Queen Esther in the bible. You are not to be treated like an irritating obstacle or a sexual convenience.

Lest I forget, don't be deceived that education is not for you and that your education is in the kitchen. If education is good for men, it is equally good for you. You can ask Okonjo Iweala in my absence. She's in best position to explain better. Or maybe you have the intention of being educated but you hang up due to challenges coming your way, I would have suggested you read the biography of Oprah Winfrey to see how she used challenges to attain greatness.

Stay true to who you are and your inner knowing. This is one of the greatest gifts you can give us as men: Your authentic heart’s offering. If you aren’t you because you want us to love you, then we don’t really have YOU any ways.

You being fully self-expressed as the feminine is the gift. There is nothing you need to DO and nothing you need to prove, all I know is that your presence is everything.

As a woman, you are a profound alchemical portal of transformation for us men. You are a Universe of infinite wonder where all of life exists.

I don't think you know the power you have in the depth of your heart to move universe with simply the blink of an eye or a smile

I don't think you really know the power you have to resurrect a life and give hope just with your compassion and care

I don't think you really know the power you have to shape the future of humanity with the way you love and discipline a child.

I don't think you realise how special you are as a woman.

Do you know your true worth in society?

If you do, then why do you settle for less than you deserve? Why do you allow yourself to be treated as a second class citizen? Why don’t you become all that you can and should be? Why do you wait for men to determine and dictate your future?

Woman-of-today, you can be everything if you are willing to work hard enough. The time of being a housewife and depending on a man is long gone. This is your time to liberate yourself psychologically, physically, financially and otherwise. The time to be empowered is now. Don't allow low self-esteem to override you.

With you, there is possibility.
With you, I feel like I can touch the skies.
With you, I can move the mountain.

I have been trying to write an open letter to men as well despite my busy schedule. Maybe you have something you want me to tell them (the men), you can talk to me. I promise to include your points in the letter. Before then, Women, you can help men become real men! Most importantly, we want to feel admired by you. Help us to know that you love us just as we are, even if there is room for improvement. Do this by giving us words of validation; praise us for the things we do well. This means more to us than we let on.

In return, we will make sure that you feel loved and cherished by us. We will learn to talk with you so you can be heard and understood, not so that we can tell you how to solve your problems. We'll also try to learn to express how we feel without withdrawing or getting angry. With polished communication we can learn that what makes you happy makes us happy too! Please....


In closing,

I see you.

I respect you.

I cherish you,

I adore you, and

I love you.


Yours truly,
Matthew.



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