Today is my birthday.
I’m dedicating the day to celebrating myself, something we’re not really taught to do all that much.
I’m celebrating me.
Not my accolades or accomplishments or publications or anything remotely tangible. I am celebrating my life. I’m alive, and so are you (if you are reading these words). Sometimes I forget to celebrate this awe-inspiring fact. So here I am, cake in hand, another year around the sun. Cheers to that.
On my birthday, I want to know your dreams. That will be my gift. You sharing that.
Post your dream(s) below in the comment section or send to my personal email at brainardjulius@gmail.com.
You know what else I want for my birthday? You to celebrate yourself. Without any guilt or shame. Unabashedly. I would love to hear on my Facebook page what you are doing to celebrate you. You want to know why? When we celebrate ourselves, we give each other permission to do so. There becomes less of a stigma with really loving yourself and cherishing yourself. It’s not arrogant. It’s your birthright.
Celebrate yourself. I am. Join me? Stop by my page and say hi!
Have a fun-filled new year celebration. Don't forget everything we've taught ourselves this year. Do take your time to do a review. Before this time next year, I want you to have experienced the change you desire. Till next year before we meet here again. See you at the top. Thanks.
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Sunday, 29 December 2013
MY BIRTHDAY SPECIAL - 27 LESSONS LEARNED IN 27 YEARS.
Today is my 27th birthday. I mean 27 years of life on this planet. Some good, some bad, but every single one precious in its own way. Yep, I’m on my way 3 years into a new decade and I think it is going to be a good one. I'm on top of the world. I'm dedicating this day to celebrate myself. I've always tried to live my life at full effort and with full appreciation. Life has been so good to me so I wanted to take the time to reflect on the lessons I’ve learned in the last 27 years of my life in no particular order.
1. Being Alive Is The Most Amazing Thing That Can Ever Be
Seriously. If you’re struggling with something one day, just take it all the way back to the fact that you’re inhaling and exhaling. You’re here now. Your chance still exists. It didn’t for billions of years before you and it won’t exist billions of year after you. But it exists now, in this flicker of chance. Let that be your limitless source of renewable energy. If you’re only focused on getting to some destination, you’ll miss the entire journey.
2. There Are Better Stories In Failing
Your life would be a boring story if everything you did worked out just as you had planned. When you fail at something, you learn. We tend to work hardest and feel most happy when we are working on something that is just out of our reach. Just out of our reach means that in simply getting there, we are trying things that might not work. That is where the fun lies. A muscle can’t increase in size unless the muscle fibers tear via hard work. Growing is to tearing as learning is to failing. Your story is forged through the canyons of choices that didn’t go the way you wanted them to. That’s why we want to hear you speak. That’s why we want to read your book. That’s what makes you human. That’s what makes you like everyone else. That’s what inspires us.
3. Travel; Going Outside Your Comfort Zone Is What Expands Your Character
Nothing has influenced me more than getting out of my bubble. I realize I am extremely fortunate for being able to travel and see the world, but if the chance is yours to be had, take it. Seeing how other cultures live, seeing that there are worlds far different from yours, seeing that your way isn’t the only way teaches you empathy, understanding, and varying points of view. Travelling teaches you that you are but one blade of grass in an endless meadow: oh so unique, yet oh so alike.
4. A Smile Can Change Everything
As my mother once told me, “You never know when your smile might save someone’s life.” A genuine smile is always accepted. It’s contagious. It’s the acknowledgement that in that moment between you and another person, “I see you. I recognize you. I want to extend friendliness and joy to you, directly to you.” In that ever so brief of moment of a shared smile, you wholly matter. I see you, and what the heck...I hope this smile finds you well.
5. Be Thankful, Don't Feel Guilty
Why do I live in a 21st World country? Why do I get the chances to live an easier life? Why do I get clean water and the freedom to do as I wish? Don’t waste your time wondering why you have these random gifts, be thankful that you have them and try to live a life befitting of the gift. There is no time to feel guilty for it, only time to do something with it.
6. 80% Contentment
Things aren't going to be perfect in life. You aren't going to live in the best neighbourhood, with the best friends, having the best job, with the best social life, and the best relationship at every turn. When I was younger, I thought I had to be 100% content to be fulfilled. I've slowly learned that 80% contentment, 4-out-of-5, is pretty damn good and that's a more realistic level to shoot for. Just because something isn't perfect in your life, doesn't mean you can't be thoroughly happy. Perfection is exhausting. Be careful chasing the unblemished life.
7. Comparisons Will Kill You; Define Your Own Success
Someone will always be faster, richer, younger, prettier or more talented than you. There was a wonder statement I heard recently: “The reason we struggle with self-confidence is that we compare everyone’s highlight reel with our behind the scenes.” Stop worrying about what you don’t have and instead, magnify and utilize the things you do have.
In the same vein, be sure to clarify to yourself what success would look like to you in any endeavor. Don't let someone else's expectations be the be the rung of the ladder that you are climbing to. If so, you might miss attainable contentment and fulfillment on your climb to prove something to someone.
8. You’ll Lose Friends Along The Way
Try as you may, but holding on to the idea that your friend from grade school will be your best friend for life, might not be the most productive thing you ever do. Understand that people change, circumstances change and friends will come and go. Always be a friend but don’t spend your life trying to stay friends with someone just to say you did. Everything has a natural cycle.
9. When In Doubt, Ask
If you don’t know the answer to something and you can’t find it, ask someone. If you wonder what someone thinks or if you want to grab a coffee with someone, ask. It’s literally that simple. Don’t expect them to reach out to you just because you want them to. If the answer is no, then you find yourself in the exact same position as before you posed the question. Asking is a positive sum game.
10. Be Relatable
Degrees, skills, certifications, accolades and ability are obviously important in earning a living but I can tell you that from my own crazy path that understanding people, being present and empathetic has allowed me to connect, bond and relate in situations where I’ve been the outsider. Life is a shared existence. If people like being around you, they’ll want to have you around them more often. This goes for friends, lovers and employers.
11. Always Be Reading
Always be reading a book, even if you’re only reading 5-10 minutes a day. 10 minutes a day is an hour and ten minutes a week. At 300 words per minute, you’re reading 20,000 words a week. The average book is 70,000-150,000 words so you can read a book in 3-7 weeks by reading 10 minutes a day. Try to average a book a month. It will change your life.
12. Money Alone, Will Never Satisfy You
Understand that there is no amount of money that you can ever make where you will say, “Ok, now I’m happy.” Money comes and money goes. The question is, is the person experiencing these ebbs and flows happy with the person he is becoming? If money is your sole compass, then it will act like Homer's Sirens, luring you into rocky waters.
13. Write Things Down
There are still times when I tell myself, “I’ll never forget this!” Then two minutes later I have no idea what I wasn’t going to forget. I don’t know how many business ideas or tasks that didn’t get completed when they should have because I was too proud to write things down. You will forget. Don’t waste mental energy remembering things you want to get done. Write it down and let your brain then focus on things that need its energy the most.
14. “Should” Is The Worst Word In The English Language
Get the word “should” out of your vocabulary. All there is in life is did or didn’t. That’s it. “Should” is a half commitment. It’s a cheeseburger with no cheese. It’s untied shoes. It’s a flat tire on a perfectly able bike. It's potential wasted. It’s your quick fix to feel good about yourself because you are admitting what the right thing to do is. Just because you know what the right thing to do is, doesn’t mean you get to bask in the feeling of having done it. You should never say "should" again. Either do or don't.
15. Dream But Don't Daydream
While daydreams are important when it comes to creativity, you can’t daydream thought into action. Have hopes and dreams but understand that to realize those dreams, something in reality will have to be undertaken. There are 24 hours in a day. You need to eat and you need to sleep. The rest of that time is on you. Today is the youngest you will be for the rest of your life. Let's do this.
16. Exercise Or Die
Get your heart pumping. It is the easiest way to keep yourself balanced mentally and physically. Oh and, don't skip meals. There's nothing noble about being so busy that you forgot to eat. In fact, I'm sure your body hates it when you do that.
17. No One Cares More About Your Goals Than You Do
I used to think that people (friends, family, girls, whoever) would spend the same amount of time thinking about me, my life and what I was struggling with or working on as much as I was. News Flash: They don’t care. They are fighting their own fight. They are too tangled with their own journey to be able spend a second to think about mine. Stop wondering what everyone is thinking and instead, get after what ever it is you want to get after. You’ll get support when you’ve earned it.
18. Surround Yourself with Quality People
You will inevitably become the byproduct of the people you surround yourself with. Fortunately with the world of social media, today more than ever you are blessed with the ability to surround yourself with like minded people. If you want to be a certain way, surround yourself with the people that are already that way.
19. There's Time If You Want There To Be Time
You do have time. You have so much of it. You just have to be aware of how your minutes get used up on a daily basis. You want to get something done? How bad? Bad enough to not watch TV, surf the internet, go to Happy Hour? That choice is on you. Shrink the change by setting alarms, creating mini goals and living intentionally otherwise the hamster wheel will be your transportation du jour, every "jour". Carpe Diem. I’ve heard for years: “you’re young.” Don’t wait for the perfect time, because it will never come.
20. Prepare More, Plan Less
We try so hard to control the exact results of things we haven’t done or experienced yet that we are so hard on ourselves when they don’t turn out exactly as we imagined they would. Instead, go in a relative direction and create short term goals/checkpoints that you can more or less manage. The rest is wholly and unequivocally out of your control, both in a beautiful and sometimes cruel way. You won’t see every door along your path of life, so sometimes you just have to walk through the door and then tangential opportunities will present themselves. Hinging your happiness on a make believe point beyond the horizon is a dangerous game to play. Instead, focus on the nearest landmark. For me, I have 3 things I need to do a day. The rest is the rest.
21. If You’re Not Scared, You’re Not Doing It Right
We can’t really progress unless we are pushing against the walls on the outer edges of our comfort zone. If we only did the things we already knew, we’d never get anywhere. Fear, apprehension and sweaty palms mean that you are probably about to learn something that you’ll never forget. Smile, and say hello to wisdom.
22. Someone's Title Doesn't Mean That They're Smarter Than You
Just because someone has a prestigious title doesn’t mean that their opinion is worth more than yours on everything. Sure, some very worthy people have titles that they deserve, but there are plenty of people who have titles for political reasons or for reasons I still can’t seem to figure out. Don’t let someone’s title intimidate you just because of the title. They breathe just like you and I do.
23. Stop Keeping Score
Life is not a competition. It’s an adventure, something to be enjoyed and lived to the fullest. Keeping score ensures that you’ll be in ego driven pursuit of a meaningless marker of success.
24. Stay Present
Don’t think too much about the future or too much about the past. Neither one really matters as much as you think it does and the one key to peak performance in everything you do is presence.
25. Don’t Give Up
When you hear that Thomas Edison made 10,000 attempts to get the light bulb right, you realize that in order to have an impact on history you really can’t give up. Usually in the moments when you want to give up the most is when you make the most dramatic progress. Keep going.
26. Autonomy Has To Be Balanced With Input; Together. Be Better
Sometimes you can’t get anything done until you buckle down, turn off your phone and go one-on-one with whatever it is you have to do. The danger in that is becoming too solitary, too autonomous, where you live in your own head, drowning in your own positive illusions. Be diligent with the things you want to do, but create time and space for interaction and input from those around you. That’s where breakthroughs happen. We are who we surround ourselves with.
27. Do what you love.
This is generally the easiest thing for you to do. What do you think about when you go to bed and what do you think about when you get up? Do that. You must strive to know where your passion lies and stick to it.
As a kid, I never understood the point in living past the age of 27. It appeared to me all the good stuff occurred before this age. I realize I didn’t know as much as I thought I did. So, take this post for what it’s worth. Regardless, I’m looking forward to the road ahead and would like to thank anyone reading this that has made my life, well, my life.
CHEERS!
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1. Being Alive Is The Most Amazing Thing That Can Ever Be
Seriously. If you’re struggling with something one day, just take it all the way back to the fact that you’re inhaling and exhaling. You’re here now. Your chance still exists. It didn’t for billions of years before you and it won’t exist billions of year after you. But it exists now, in this flicker of chance. Let that be your limitless source of renewable energy. If you’re only focused on getting to some destination, you’ll miss the entire journey.
2. There Are Better Stories In Failing
Your life would be a boring story if everything you did worked out just as you had planned. When you fail at something, you learn. We tend to work hardest and feel most happy when we are working on something that is just out of our reach. Just out of our reach means that in simply getting there, we are trying things that might not work. That is where the fun lies. A muscle can’t increase in size unless the muscle fibers tear via hard work. Growing is to tearing as learning is to failing. Your story is forged through the canyons of choices that didn’t go the way you wanted them to. That’s why we want to hear you speak. That’s why we want to read your book. That’s what makes you human. That’s what makes you like everyone else. That’s what inspires us.
3. Travel; Going Outside Your Comfort Zone Is What Expands Your Character
Nothing has influenced me more than getting out of my bubble. I realize I am extremely fortunate for being able to travel and see the world, but if the chance is yours to be had, take it. Seeing how other cultures live, seeing that there are worlds far different from yours, seeing that your way isn’t the only way teaches you empathy, understanding, and varying points of view. Travelling teaches you that you are but one blade of grass in an endless meadow: oh so unique, yet oh so alike.
4. A Smile Can Change Everything
As my mother once told me, “You never know when your smile might save someone’s life.” A genuine smile is always accepted. It’s contagious. It’s the acknowledgement that in that moment between you and another person, “I see you. I recognize you. I want to extend friendliness and joy to you, directly to you.” In that ever so brief of moment of a shared smile, you wholly matter. I see you, and what the heck...I hope this smile finds you well.
5. Be Thankful, Don't Feel Guilty
Why do I live in a 21st World country? Why do I get the chances to live an easier life? Why do I get clean water and the freedom to do as I wish? Don’t waste your time wondering why you have these random gifts, be thankful that you have them and try to live a life befitting of the gift. There is no time to feel guilty for it, only time to do something with it.
6. 80% Contentment
Things aren't going to be perfect in life. You aren't going to live in the best neighbourhood, with the best friends, having the best job, with the best social life, and the best relationship at every turn. When I was younger, I thought I had to be 100% content to be fulfilled. I've slowly learned that 80% contentment, 4-out-of-5, is pretty damn good and that's a more realistic level to shoot for. Just because something isn't perfect in your life, doesn't mean you can't be thoroughly happy. Perfection is exhausting. Be careful chasing the unblemished life.
7. Comparisons Will Kill You; Define Your Own Success
Someone will always be faster, richer, younger, prettier or more talented than you. There was a wonder statement I heard recently: “The reason we struggle with self-confidence is that we compare everyone’s highlight reel with our behind the scenes.” Stop worrying about what you don’t have and instead, magnify and utilize the things you do have.
In the same vein, be sure to clarify to yourself what success would look like to you in any endeavor. Don't let someone else's expectations be the be the rung of the ladder that you are climbing to. If so, you might miss attainable contentment and fulfillment on your climb to prove something to someone.
8. You’ll Lose Friends Along The Way
Try as you may, but holding on to the idea that your friend from grade school will be your best friend for life, might not be the most productive thing you ever do. Understand that people change, circumstances change and friends will come and go. Always be a friend but don’t spend your life trying to stay friends with someone just to say you did. Everything has a natural cycle.
9. When In Doubt, Ask
If you don’t know the answer to something and you can’t find it, ask someone. If you wonder what someone thinks or if you want to grab a coffee with someone, ask. It’s literally that simple. Don’t expect them to reach out to you just because you want them to. If the answer is no, then you find yourself in the exact same position as before you posed the question. Asking is a positive sum game.
10. Be Relatable
Degrees, skills, certifications, accolades and ability are obviously important in earning a living but I can tell you that from my own crazy path that understanding people, being present and empathetic has allowed me to connect, bond and relate in situations where I’ve been the outsider. Life is a shared existence. If people like being around you, they’ll want to have you around them more often. This goes for friends, lovers and employers.
11. Always Be Reading
Always be reading a book, even if you’re only reading 5-10 minutes a day. 10 minutes a day is an hour and ten minutes a week. At 300 words per minute, you’re reading 20,000 words a week. The average book is 70,000-150,000 words so you can read a book in 3-7 weeks by reading 10 minutes a day. Try to average a book a month. It will change your life.
12. Money Alone, Will Never Satisfy You
Understand that there is no amount of money that you can ever make where you will say, “Ok, now I’m happy.” Money comes and money goes. The question is, is the person experiencing these ebbs and flows happy with the person he is becoming? If money is your sole compass, then it will act like Homer's Sirens, luring you into rocky waters.
13. Write Things Down
There are still times when I tell myself, “I’ll never forget this!” Then two minutes later I have no idea what I wasn’t going to forget. I don’t know how many business ideas or tasks that didn’t get completed when they should have because I was too proud to write things down. You will forget. Don’t waste mental energy remembering things you want to get done. Write it down and let your brain then focus on things that need its energy the most.
14. “Should” Is The Worst Word In The English Language
Get the word “should” out of your vocabulary. All there is in life is did or didn’t. That’s it. “Should” is a half commitment. It’s a cheeseburger with no cheese. It’s untied shoes. It’s a flat tire on a perfectly able bike. It's potential wasted. It’s your quick fix to feel good about yourself because you are admitting what the right thing to do is. Just because you know what the right thing to do is, doesn’t mean you get to bask in the feeling of having done it. You should never say "should" again. Either do or don't.
15. Dream But Don't Daydream
While daydreams are important when it comes to creativity, you can’t daydream thought into action. Have hopes and dreams but understand that to realize those dreams, something in reality will have to be undertaken. There are 24 hours in a day. You need to eat and you need to sleep. The rest of that time is on you. Today is the youngest you will be for the rest of your life. Let's do this.
16. Exercise Or Die
Get your heart pumping. It is the easiest way to keep yourself balanced mentally and physically. Oh and, don't skip meals. There's nothing noble about being so busy that you forgot to eat. In fact, I'm sure your body hates it when you do that.
17. No One Cares More About Your Goals Than You Do
I used to think that people (friends, family, girls, whoever) would spend the same amount of time thinking about me, my life and what I was struggling with or working on as much as I was. News Flash: They don’t care. They are fighting their own fight. They are too tangled with their own journey to be able spend a second to think about mine. Stop wondering what everyone is thinking and instead, get after what ever it is you want to get after. You’ll get support when you’ve earned it.
18. Surround Yourself with Quality People
You will inevitably become the byproduct of the people you surround yourself with. Fortunately with the world of social media, today more than ever you are blessed with the ability to surround yourself with like minded people. If you want to be a certain way, surround yourself with the people that are already that way.
19. There's Time If You Want There To Be Time
You do have time. You have so much of it. You just have to be aware of how your minutes get used up on a daily basis. You want to get something done? How bad? Bad enough to not watch TV, surf the internet, go to Happy Hour? That choice is on you. Shrink the change by setting alarms, creating mini goals and living intentionally otherwise the hamster wheel will be your transportation du jour, every "jour". Carpe Diem. I’ve heard for years: “you’re young.” Don’t wait for the perfect time, because it will never come.
20. Prepare More, Plan Less
We try so hard to control the exact results of things we haven’t done or experienced yet that we are so hard on ourselves when they don’t turn out exactly as we imagined they would. Instead, go in a relative direction and create short term goals/checkpoints that you can more or less manage. The rest is wholly and unequivocally out of your control, both in a beautiful and sometimes cruel way. You won’t see every door along your path of life, so sometimes you just have to walk through the door and then tangential opportunities will present themselves. Hinging your happiness on a make believe point beyond the horizon is a dangerous game to play. Instead, focus on the nearest landmark. For me, I have 3 things I need to do a day. The rest is the rest.
21. If You’re Not Scared, You’re Not Doing It Right
We can’t really progress unless we are pushing against the walls on the outer edges of our comfort zone. If we only did the things we already knew, we’d never get anywhere. Fear, apprehension and sweaty palms mean that you are probably about to learn something that you’ll never forget. Smile, and say hello to wisdom.
22. Someone's Title Doesn't Mean That They're Smarter Than You
Just because someone has a prestigious title doesn’t mean that their opinion is worth more than yours on everything. Sure, some very worthy people have titles that they deserve, but there are plenty of people who have titles for political reasons or for reasons I still can’t seem to figure out. Don’t let someone’s title intimidate you just because of the title. They breathe just like you and I do.
23. Stop Keeping Score
Life is not a competition. It’s an adventure, something to be enjoyed and lived to the fullest. Keeping score ensures that you’ll be in ego driven pursuit of a meaningless marker of success.
24. Stay Present
Don’t think too much about the future or too much about the past. Neither one really matters as much as you think it does and the one key to peak performance in everything you do is presence.
25. Don’t Give Up
When you hear that Thomas Edison made 10,000 attempts to get the light bulb right, you realize that in order to have an impact on history you really can’t give up. Usually in the moments when you want to give up the most is when you make the most dramatic progress. Keep going.
26. Autonomy Has To Be Balanced With Input; Together. Be Better
Sometimes you can’t get anything done until you buckle down, turn off your phone and go one-on-one with whatever it is you have to do. The danger in that is becoming too solitary, too autonomous, where you live in your own head, drowning in your own positive illusions. Be diligent with the things you want to do, but create time and space for interaction and input from those around you. That’s where breakthroughs happen. We are who we surround ourselves with.
27. Do what you love.
This is generally the easiest thing for you to do. What do you think about when you go to bed and what do you think about when you get up? Do that. You must strive to know where your passion lies and stick to it.
As a kid, I never understood the point in living past the age of 27. It appeared to me all the good stuff occurred before this age. I realize I didn’t know as much as I thought I did. So, take this post for what it’s worth. Regardless, I’m looking forward to the road ahead and would like to thank anyone reading this that has made my life, well, my life.
CHEERS!
Thank you for reading livelifetips.blogspot.com where every articles expands your knowledge, motivates you to excellence, inspires you to succeed and increases your faith.
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Tuesday, 24 December 2013
15 THREATS TO SUCCESS AND LIKELY SOLUTIONS.
1. LACK OF A WELL-DEFINED PURPOSE IN LIFE. There is no hope of success when you don’t have a central purpose, or definite goal at which to aim. Ninety-eight percent of people are followers who have no definite idea of their ultimate goal. What to do: As an absolute first step in your personal or professional success, know your passion. What is your higher purpose?
2. LACK OF AMBITION TO AIM ABOVE MEDIOCRITY. If you don’t like where you are, you must find a way to change that. What to do: Becoming a fulfilled Home Executive or accomplished Business Leader will occur only when you consistently strive for excellence.
3. NEGATIVE ENVIRONMENT As the saying goes, “you are who you know,” so it is of the utmost importance to have only those people in your life who support you and what you believe/desire yourself to be. What to do: Control the amount of doom and gloom you allow into your life, creating an environment that is filled with people and things that are supportive of your higher purpose.
4. POOR HEALTH. It is impossible to enjoy outstanding success when you lack physical and emotional health. Obtaining this goal is an ongoing process. What to do: Consume a healthy, well-balanced diet of nutritious food and, also, exercise regularly. This regimen will lead to both physical and emotional well-being.
5. UNFAVORABLE ENVIRONMENTAL INFLUENCES DURING CHILDHOOD. “As the twig is bent, so shall the tree grow.” This isn’t a curse, its a challenge. Anyone can overcome their childhood difficulties. What to do: Surround yourself with people who emulate who you want to be, study the behaviors you like about them and change the behaviors you don’t like about yourself.
6. PROCRASTINATION. This is one of the most common causes of failure. “Old Man Procrastination” stands within the shadow of every human being, awaiting his opportunity to spoil one’s chances of success. Failing at life is the result of waiting for the “time to be right” before starting to do something worthwhile. What to do: Don’t wait! The time will never be “just right.” Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have. You can be sure that better tools will be found as you go forward.
7. LACK OF PERSISTENCE. Most of us are good “starters” but poor “finishers” of what we begin. Moreover, people are prone to give up at the first signs of defeat. There is no substitute for PERSISTENCE. What to do: Watch out for this one! Snuff it out the minute you feel it creep in. You’ll notice it when you procrastinate or feel stagnant in your daily living.
8. NEGATIVE PERSONALITY. There is no hope of success for the person who is offensive because of their negative personality. What to do: You have power in your presence, so use your winning/positive personality instead of manifesting a negative character.
9. UNCONTROLLED DESIRE FOR “SOMETHING FOR NOTHING.” Recent discussions around movies such as The Secret have some talking about manifesting what you desire out of thin air. This simply does not occur. What to do: You can sit on your sofa wishing for a million dollars 23 hours of everyday, not paying your bills because the money is right around the corner, and get your house taken away in the process due to non-payment. Desire is necessary but it is only the beginning – an action plan as well as ACTION are both essential.
10. LACK OF ABILITY TO MAKE A DECISION. Those who succeed reach decisions promptly (no procrastinating!), because they know there are no failures – only tests. What to do: Know that everything is happening according to your divine order. Keep this in mind and you will never suffer from indecision.
11. INABILITY TO TAKE RISKS. The person who takes no chances, generally has to take whatever is left when others are finished choosing. Over-caution is as bad as under-caution. Both are extremes to be guarded against. What to do: Take chances. Remember, there are no failures! Live your life in the divine flow and remember that everything is happening according to plans.
12. LACK OF CONCENTRATION OF EFFORT. The “jack-of-all-trades” seldom is good at any of them. What to do: Concentrate all of your efforts on your higher purpose in life, then, with laser focus, continue on that path that brings you passion.
13. LACK OF ENTHUSIASM. Having no enthusiasm generally means you don’t enjoy your current lot in life. Whatever you are doing, as long as you are moving in the direction of your higher purpose, will make you enthusiastic. What to do: Test yourself. Are you not enthusiastic? This is a sign you’re on the wrong path and need to re-evaluate your higher purpose.
14. INTOLERANCE. The person with a “closed” mind on any subject seldom gets ahead. Intolerance means that one has stopped acquiring knowledge. The most damaging forms of intolerance are those connected with religious, racial, and political differences of opinion. What to do: Be respectful of and open to any idea, statement, judgment, or opinion that comes your way. Respecting another’s beliefs or ideas does not mean you have to accept them as your own. Always be open to alternative views. You just might learn something about yourself along the way!
15. GUESSING INSTEAD OF THINKING. Most people are too indifferent or lazy to acquire FACTS with which to THINK ACCURATELY. They prefer to act on “opinions” created by guesswork or snap-judgments. What to do: Check your facts and do your research. Thinking is your most powerful tool because what you think, you will be!
(Adapted from Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill.)
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2. LACK OF AMBITION TO AIM ABOVE MEDIOCRITY. If you don’t like where you are, you must find a way to change that. What to do: Becoming a fulfilled Home Executive or accomplished Business Leader will occur only when you consistently strive for excellence.
3. NEGATIVE ENVIRONMENT As the saying goes, “you are who you know,” so it is of the utmost importance to have only those people in your life who support you and what you believe/desire yourself to be. What to do: Control the amount of doom and gloom you allow into your life, creating an environment that is filled with people and things that are supportive of your higher purpose.
4. POOR HEALTH. It is impossible to enjoy outstanding success when you lack physical and emotional health. Obtaining this goal is an ongoing process. What to do: Consume a healthy, well-balanced diet of nutritious food and, also, exercise regularly. This regimen will lead to both physical and emotional well-being.
5. UNFAVORABLE ENVIRONMENTAL INFLUENCES DURING CHILDHOOD. “As the twig is bent, so shall the tree grow.” This isn’t a curse, its a challenge. Anyone can overcome their childhood difficulties. What to do: Surround yourself with people who emulate who you want to be, study the behaviors you like about them and change the behaviors you don’t like about yourself.
6. PROCRASTINATION. This is one of the most common causes of failure. “Old Man Procrastination” stands within the shadow of every human being, awaiting his opportunity to spoil one’s chances of success. Failing at life is the result of waiting for the “time to be right” before starting to do something worthwhile. What to do: Don’t wait! The time will never be “just right.” Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have. You can be sure that better tools will be found as you go forward.
7. LACK OF PERSISTENCE. Most of us are good “starters” but poor “finishers” of what we begin. Moreover, people are prone to give up at the first signs of defeat. There is no substitute for PERSISTENCE. What to do: Watch out for this one! Snuff it out the minute you feel it creep in. You’ll notice it when you procrastinate or feel stagnant in your daily living.
8. NEGATIVE PERSONALITY. There is no hope of success for the person who is offensive because of their negative personality. What to do: You have power in your presence, so use your winning/positive personality instead of manifesting a negative character.
9. UNCONTROLLED DESIRE FOR “SOMETHING FOR NOTHING.” Recent discussions around movies such as The Secret have some talking about manifesting what you desire out of thin air. This simply does not occur. What to do: You can sit on your sofa wishing for a million dollars 23 hours of everyday, not paying your bills because the money is right around the corner, and get your house taken away in the process due to non-payment. Desire is necessary but it is only the beginning – an action plan as well as ACTION are both essential.
10. LACK OF ABILITY TO MAKE A DECISION. Those who succeed reach decisions promptly (no procrastinating!), because they know there are no failures – only tests. What to do: Know that everything is happening according to your divine order. Keep this in mind and you will never suffer from indecision.
11. INABILITY TO TAKE RISKS. The person who takes no chances, generally has to take whatever is left when others are finished choosing. Over-caution is as bad as under-caution. Both are extremes to be guarded against. What to do: Take chances. Remember, there are no failures! Live your life in the divine flow and remember that everything is happening according to plans.
12. LACK OF CONCENTRATION OF EFFORT. The “jack-of-all-trades” seldom is good at any of them. What to do: Concentrate all of your efforts on your higher purpose in life, then, with laser focus, continue on that path that brings you passion.
13. LACK OF ENTHUSIASM. Having no enthusiasm generally means you don’t enjoy your current lot in life. Whatever you are doing, as long as you are moving in the direction of your higher purpose, will make you enthusiastic. What to do: Test yourself. Are you not enthusiastic? This is a sign you’re on the wrong path and need to re-evaluate your higher purpose.
14. INTOLERANCE. The person with a “closed” mind on any subject seldom gets ahead. Intolerance means that one has stopped acquiring knowledge. The most damaging forms of intolerance are those connected with religious, racial, and political differences of opinion. What to do: Be respectful of and open to any idea, statement, judgment, or opinion that comes your way. Respecting another’s beliefs or ideas does not mean you have to accept them as your own. Always be open to alternative views. You just might learn something about yourself along the way!
15. GUESSING INSTEAD OF THINKING. Most people are too indifferent or lazy to acquire FACTS with which to THINK ACCURATELY. They prefer to act on “opinions” created by guesswork or snap-judgments. What to do: Check your facts and do your research. Thinking is your most powerful tool because what you think, you will be!
(Adapted from Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill.)
Thank you for reading livelifetips.blogspot.com where every articles expands your knowledge, motivates you to excellence, inspires you to succeed and increases your faith.
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MA.
Saturday, 21 December 2013
THE SCIENCE OF GRATITUDE.
“To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant, to enact gratitude is generous and noble, but to live gratitude is to touch Heaven.”
Johannes A. Gartner
Gratitude is a part of the happiness holy grail. Compared with those who aren’t practicing gratitude, scientists have found that people practicing gratitude:
Are considerably more enthusiastic, interested, and determined
Feel 25% happier
Are more likely to be both kind and helpful to others
Who doesn’t want these things?
Over the years, I have learned that gratitude is a SKILL, like learning to speak French or playing table tennis. It needs to be taught, and it needs to be practiced consciously and deliberately.
Practicing gratitude can be blissfully simple: just count the things in your life that you feel thankful for. A lot of people are retarded in growth simply because they don’t know to say a simple thank you. During my stayed in Ghana, I have understood the power of thank you. Average man or woman in that country can collect all you have by saying ‘meda ashe’. When a Ghanaian rendered a service to you, they’ll tell you ‘meda ashe’ after you have paid for the service. Not only in that aspect, when they give you something, they won’t hesitate to show appreciation for you collecting. The same is visible in the life of the people of Benin Republic using ‘merci.’ What majority don’t understand is that, when you appreciate those who have done something either in minute or big form, you are indirectly telling the person to do more and I must confess to you, they will surely do more because you have shown gratitude for what you have received.
Some people just aren’t that grateful, and they really don’t want to be poked and prodded to practice gratitude. Some people can’t say thank you to their creator for the gift of life let alone creatures like them. How often do you appreciate people in your life? Have you shown appreciation to someone this week, month or today? Don’t you think that bus driver deserves appreciation for not driving you into gutter or for being nice and courteous? What of the woman or the lady who cook the delicious meal? Yes, he or she called you, did you remember to say thank you, after he or she dropped the call? Some people are in the mortuary, police custody, hospital but here you’re reading this article, don’t you think you need to say ‘THANK YOU GOD.’
When you learn how to show gratitude, you get more than your expectation. Try it today and see what you get in return.
Thank you for reading, and please pass this article along.
To your ultimate success, MA.
Johannes A. Gartner
Gratitude is a part of the happiness holy grail. Compared with those who aren’t practicing gratitude, scientists have found that people practicing gratitude:
Are considerably more enthusiastic, interested, and determined
Feel 25% happier
Are more likely to be both kind and helpful to others
Who doesn’t want these things?
Over the years, I have learned that gratitude is a SKILL, like learning to speak French or playing table tennis. It needs to be taught, and it needs to be practiced consciously and deliberately.
Practicing gratitude can be blissfully simple: just count the things in your life that you feel thankful for. A lot of people are retarded in growth simply because they don’t know to say a simple thank you. During my stayed in Ghana, I have understood the power of thank you. Average man or woman in that country can collect all you have by saying ‘meda ashe’. When a Ghanaian rendered a service to you, they’ll tell you ‘meda ashe’ after you have paid for the service. Not only in that aspect, when they give you something, they won’t hesitate to show appreciation for you collecting. The same is visible in the life of the people of Benin Republic using ‘merci.’ What majority don’t understand is that, when you appreciate those who have done something either in minute or big form, you are indirectly telling the person to do more and I must confess to you, they will surely do more because you have shown gratitude for what you have received.
Some people just aren’t that grateful, and they really don’t want to be poked and prodded to practice gratitude. Some people can’t say thank you to their creator for the gift of life let alone creatures like them. How often do you appreciate people in your life? Have you shown appreciation to someone this week, month or today? Don’t you think that bus driver deserves appreciation for not driving you into gutter or for being nice and courteous? What of the woman or the lady who cook the delicious meal? Yes, he or she called you, did you remember to say thank you, after he or she dropped the call? Some people are in the mortuary, police custody, hospital but here you’re reading this article, don’t you think you need to say ‘THANK YOU GOD.’
When you learn how to show gratitude, you get more than your expectation. Try it today and see what you get in return.
Thank you for reading, and please pass this article along.
To your ultimate success, MA.
Friday, 20 December 2013
CHANGE YOUR PROGRAMMING, CHANGE YOUR LIFE!.
Today I want to talk about why your life never changes, why you never make drastic progress, and why your goals are never achieved. This may be one of the most important articles you ever read.
Let me start-off by explaining some concepts, and then I will discuss why your life never changes.
The Brain and The Mind
What’s the difference between your brain and your mind?
I submit to you that your brain is the tangible organ in your head.
Your mind is something that is intangible; it’s not bound to the confines of your skull. Your mind consists of your thoughts, your feelings, and your emotions, and it runs “the programming” that you’ve received throughout your life.
Let’s talk about “that programming” and how it’s responsible for your success, or your failure.
Hardware and The Brain
The “computer” that you’re reading this article on has hardware: there’s a monitor, you may have a printer, and there’s definitely a “central processing unit.”
The central processing unit or CPU is the “base” of the computer; it’s very much like your brain.
…and just like the CPU is very important hardware, your brain is also very important hardware.
But hardware is not enough? You can have the best hardware in the world…if that hardware doesn’t have any software…it is useless; just like a body without a mind.
Software
In order for a computer to be of use, it needs to have software. The better the software the more useful the computer…
You need Microsoft Word, or PowerPoint, or Excel…you need some type of software; otherwise the computer is not much good.
The computer becomes increasingly valuable to the owner when there is valuable software and data stored on the computer.
The Mind
Your mind is the place where your “software” is uploaded onto the hard-drive of your brain. Your mind also runs the software that’s stored in your brain. Information flows through your brain (by way of your senses), is uploaded into your mind (as software); it is then stored in the cells of your brain (on your personal hard-drive), and utilized by the mind to perform certain tasks. You may want to read that again.
What “software” am I referring to…? What software is being uploaded into your mind?
I’m not talking about “Microsoft Word”….I am talking about software that’s loaded into your “head’s computer.”
What Software Are You Running On?
If you speak English, then you are running on “English software;” you have installed the program for the English language into your “head’s computer.” Let’s call that program or software: “English 2.0;” if you are a master of the English language, then you might be running on “English 4.0.”
If you speak Yoruba (a language in the western part of Nigeria), it’s because your mind has uploaded the Yoruba language software.
If you know how to walk, it’s because your mind is utilizing the “Walking” software. If you know how to dance it’s because your mind is utilizing the “Dancing” software.
…Everything that you know-how-to-do, and everything that you do, is based on the software that’s running in your “head’s computer.”
…If you speak French, if you know how to drive a car, if you can type 60 words a minute, or if you can tap dance, it’s because of the programming that has been uploaded into your mind.
Success and Failure
If your life isn’t changing, it’s because your programming isn’t changing. If I’m using Microsoft Word 2000, I can’t expect the benefits of Microsoft Word 2010, if I want the additional benefits, I need to update the program.
If I want to succeed, I need to get the program: “Success 4.0!”
Everything is based on our programming! If you are failing, it’s because you’re running on software that causes failure. If you are overweight, it’s because you’re running on software that tells your body to be overweight. There’s nothing wrong with you! It’s the programming that needs to be changed. If you never change the program, how could you ever change?
Now I want to discuss the easiest way to change that programming….
If you really desire change, want to be successful and accomplish all your target you must be updated. You must seek to grow in knowledge. Discover and apply information that can increase you. And mind you, your pattern of applying the information must be changed from time to time to yield the best result. You can't continue doing one thing in one way and expect a result.
Thank you for reading livelifetips.blogspot.com where every articles expands your knowledge, motivates you to excellence, inspires you to succeed and increases your faith.
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P.S. Your success depends on how you decide and take action.
MA.
Let me start-off by explaining some concepts, and then I will discuss why your life never changes.
The Brain and The Mind
What’s the difference between your brain and your mind?
I submit to you that your brain is the tangible organ in your head.
Your mind is something that is intangible; it’s not bound to the confines of your skull. Your mind consists of your thoughts, your feelings, and your emotions, and it runs “the programming” that you’ve received throughout your life.
Let’s talk about “that programming” and how it’s responsible for your success, or your failure.
Hardware and The Brain
The “computer” that you’re reading this article on has hardware: there’s a monitor, you may have a printer, and there’s definitely a “central processing unit.”
The central processing unit or CPU is the “base” of the computer; it’s very much like your brain.
…and just like the CPU is very important hardware, your brain is also very important hardware.
But hardware is not enough? You can have the best hardware in the world…if that hardware doesn’t have any software…it is useless; just like a body without a mind.
Software
In order for a computer to be of use, it needs to have software. The better the software the more useful the computer…
You need Microsoft Word, or PowerPoint, or Excel…you need some type of software; otherwise the computer is not much good.
The computer becomes increasingly valuable to the owner when there is valuable software and data stored on the computer.
The Mind
Your mind is the place where your “software” is uploaded onto the hard-drive of your brain. Your mind also runs the software that’s stored in your brain. Information flows through your brain (by way of your senses), is uploaded into your mind (as software); it is then stored in the cells of your brain (on your personal hard-drive), and utilized by the mind to perform certain tasks. You may want to read that again.
What “software” am I referring to…? What software is being uploaded into your mind?
I’m not talking about “Microsoft Word”….I am talking about software that’s loaded into your “head’s computer.”
What Software Are You Running On?
If you speak English, then you are running on “English software;” you have installed the program for the English language into your “head’s computer.” Let’s call that program or software: “English 2.0;” if you are a master of the English language, then you might be running on “English 4.0.”
If you speak Yoruba (a language in the western part of Nigeria), it’s because your mind has uploaded the Yoruba language software.
If you know how to walk, it’s because your mind is utilizing the “Walking” software. If you know how to dance it’s because your mind is utilizing the “Dancing” software.
…Everything that you know-how-to-do, and everything that you do, is based on the software that’s running in your “head’s computer.”
…If you speak French, if you know how to drive a car, if you can type 60 words a minute, or if you can tap dance, it’s because of the programming that has been uploaded into your mind.
Success and Failure
If your life isn’t changing, it’s because your programming isn’t changing. If I’m using Microsoft Word 2000, I can’t expect the benefits of Microsoft Word 2010, if I want the additional benefits, I need to update the program.
If I want to succeed, I need to get the program: “Success 4.0!”
Everything is based on our programming! If you are failing, it’s because you’re running on software that causes failure. If you are overweight, it’s because you’re running on software that tells your body to be overweight. There’s nothing wrong with you! It’s the programming that needs to be changed. If you never change the program, how could you ever change?
Now I want to discuss the easiest way to change that programming….
If you really desire change, want to be successful and accomplish all your target you must be updated. You must seek to grow in knowledge. Discover and apply information that can increase you. And mind you, your pattern of applying the information must be changed from time to time to yield the best result. You can't continue doing one thing in one way and expect a result.
Thank you for reading livelifetips.blogspot.com where every articles expands your knowledge, motivates you to excellence, inspires you to succeed and increases your faith.
Share With A Friend
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Regards,
P.S. Your success depends on how you decide and take action.
MA.
Wednesday, 18 December 2013
HEARTFELT GRATITUDE.
"A sincere attitude of gratitude is a beatitude for secured altitudes. Appreciate what you have been given and you will be promoted higher."
.....Israelmore Ayivor
I want to thank YOU, my LIVE LIFE TIPS family. I want to send out my heartfelt thanks to everyone who has been reading my post, and especially to those of you who took the time to send email. Your thoughtfulness and kind words have made the past four months most incredible.
This whole writing thing was an experiment to see if I could do it. You have inspired me to continue on! I had no idea this would be such an incredibly gratify experience.
I have published a post each day since I have started, and it has not always been an easy task considering my busy schedule. I’ve taken leaps of faith and risks, and still, you’re here, reading. So, thank you.
I love this family. I like to think of us as dream builder.
It’s nice to have a community. It has been a rough year in some ways—going off my goals, having relationship issues, among others. None of these things I shied away from in my writing and neither did you through your mail and otherwise.
Thank you for making my dream a reality.
Thank you for being a family of dream builders. Thank you for making LIVE LIFE TIPS a beautiful forum.
With so much snark out there on the internet, it’s a breath of fresh air to come to this blog and find you all.
I know that dreams don’t always come true. Look, if you read me, you know I am a realist, that I don’t blow smoke up the proverbial ass. But a lot of dreams come true. And with hard work and support (i.e. a family), almost anything is possible. Says the boy whose family was persuaded to learn photograph, faced depression and so much obstacles. Says me.
As a means of ending the year, I want to know your dreams for 2014. That will be my joy. You sharing that.
Post your dream(s) below in the comment section or send privately to my mail.
To my family, my friends from all walk of life and my mentors (Brian Tracy, Kris, Mr Leke Alder, Mr Development to mention but a few ), I thank you all. You are all the best. My special appreciation to the Triune God for the gifts in me and for the breathe of life. You are bigger than what people say.
Once more, thank you to each and everyone one of you. All the best to you and yours this holiday season! Happy christmas and new year in advance.
N:B
As from 2014, I will be publishing a post in a week (i.e one post, one week) so as to meet up with my expectations and goals for the year and also to give you the best. This is to notify you also that the last article for this year will be published on my birthday, 29th of December.
Your love,
MA.
.....Israelmore Ayivor
I want to thank YOU, my LIVE LIFE TIPS family. I want to send out my heartfelt thanks to everyone who has been reading my post, and especially to those of you who took the time to send email. Your thoughtfulness and kind words have made the past four months most incredible.
This whole writing thing was an experiment to see if I could do it. You have inspired me to continue on! I had no idea this would be such an incredibly gratify experience.
I have published a post each day since I have started, and it has not always been an easy task considering my busy schedule. I’ve taken leaps of faith and risks, and still, you’re here, reading. So, thank you.
I love this family. I like to think of us as dream builder.
It’s nice to have a community. It has been a rough year in some ways—going off my goals, having relationship issues, among others. None of these things I shied away from in my writing and neither did you through your mail and otherwise.
Thank you for making my dream a reality.
Thank you for being a family of dream builders. Thank you for making LIVE LIFE TIPS a beautiful forum.
With so much snark out there on the internet, it’s a breath of fresh air to come to this blog and find you all.
I know that dreams don’t always come true. Look, if you read me, you know I am a realist, that I don’t blow smoke up the proverbial ass. But a lot of dreams come true. And with hard work and support (i.e. a family), almost anything is possible. Says the boy whose family was persuaded to learn photograph, faced depression and so much obstacles. Says me.
As a means of ending the year, I want to know your dreams for 2014. That will be my joy. You sharing that.
Post your dream(s) below in the comment section or send privately to my mail.
To my family, my friends from all walk of life and my mentors (Brian Tracy, Kris, Mr Leke Alder, Mr Development to mention but a few ), I thank you all. You are all the best. My special appreciation to the Triune God for the gifts in me and for the breathe of life. You are bigger than what people say.
Once more, thank you to each and everyone one of you. All the best to you and yours this holiday season! Happy christmas and new year in advance.
N:B
As from 2014, I will be publishing a post in a week (i.e one post, one week) so as to meet up with my expectations and goals for the year and also to give you the best. This is to notify you also that the last article for this year will be published on my birthday, 29th of December.
Your love,
MA.
Saturday, 14 December 2013
WOMEN AND LOVE MISTAKES.
There are silly things women do to mess up their love lives. Women make relationship mistakes. It happens. The point is this: there are certain relationship mistakes women make over and over again. To them it is nothing but they have forgotten that little things count a times. Nevertheless, they can be avoided through the following simple advice. The list includes:
1. LIVING YOUR LIFE THROUGH YOUR MAN:
Women who let a man control the relationship eventually feel cheated and angry. Be the best you can be in your own right. You need to take a stand for things in your life, and in the relationship that you want. Do not wrap your whole life around his.
2. SETTLING FOR A MAN:
Desperate women settle for any man. Do not settle for anyone less than you deserve. It may take longer to find the right guy but you will not be stuck with a fool. Do not act desperate, good men can smell the desperation kilometres away. Just be confident, be yourself and believe that the right man will come along, because he will.
3. CONFUSING PASSION FOR LOVE:
Too many women made love out of a feeling of emptiness or hunger for approval. The result: Disaster. Sex too soon can make you feel worthless. Wait and choose a partner you have gotten to like as a person first. Men actually like women MORE if they withhold sex for a while because they deem you Marriage material. No man wants to get involved in a serious relationship with an EASY woman.
4. LIVING TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE:
Yeah, this sounds old school, outdated and crazy. Couples who live together before marriage are one third more likely to break up within 10 years. Wait until the two of you know, love and respect each other. Then get married. Make a commitment, then move in. Do not move in without the commitment.
5. EXPECTING TOO MUCH FROM A MAN:
Women with low self esteem expect marriage to bring total fulfilment. But they are doomed to disappointment when Prince Charming does not meet expectations. Choose a compatible mate, not a man you think will solve your problems. Ask any married woman. Men can not, and do not, solve all your problems.
6. HAVING A BABY FOR THE WRONG REASON:
Women who have a child to fix a broken relationship often become trapped with a man they should dump. Make an intelligent decision about having a child. You have the power over you own body. Do NOT have a baby just to keep a man in a relationship with you. That spells DOOM and DISASTER.
7. HAVING LOW STANDARDS:
Over the years the standards and requirements of Women have lowered. Men know that and have taken advantage of it. Many women do not require anything of a man. So many standards have been lowered by women that now a man does not have to climb over a very high bar to get to her. So now you have more men who can get away with more things with more women without any repercussions. Do not accept less than you deserve. And you deserve everything.
8. NOT LOVING YOURSELF:
Many women sacrifice everything just to please a man, whether its your Boyfriend or Husband. Learn to place yourself first in life and be happy first before transferring the happiness to someone else. Don't live your life for someone else. Life is short, you need to be happy.
Thank you for reading livelifetips.blogspot.com where every articles expands your knowledge, motivates you to excellence, inspires you to succeed and increases your faith.
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Kindly leave your comment.
Regards,
P.S. Your relationship success depends on how you decide and take action.
MA.
1. LIVING YOUR LIFE THROUGH YOUR MAN:
Women who let a man control the relationship eventually feel cheated and angry. Be the best you can be in your own right. You need to take a stand for things in your life, and in the relationship that you want. Do not wrap your whole life around his.
2. SETTLING FOR A MAN:
Desperate women settle for any man. Do not settle for anyone less than you deserve. It may take longer to find the right guy but you will not be stuck with a fool. Do not act desperate, good men can smell the desperation kilometres away. Just be confident, be yourself and believe that the right man will come along, because he will.
3. CONFUSING PASSION FOR LOVE:
Too many women made love out of a feeling of emptiness or hunger for approval. The result: Disaster. Sex too soon can make you feel worthless. Wait and choose a partner you have gotten to like as a person first. Men actually like women MORE if they withhold sex for a while because they deem you Marriage material. No man wants to get involved in a serious relationship with an EASY woman.
4. LIVING TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE:
Yeah, this sounds old school, outdated and crazy. Couples who live together before marriage are one third more likely to break up within 10 years. Wait until the two of you know, love and respect each other. Then get married. Make a commitment, then move in. Do not move in without the commitment.
5. EXPECTING TOO MUCH FROM A MAN:
Women with low self esteem expect marriage to bring total fulfilment. But they are doomed to disappointment when Prince Charming does not meet expectations. Choose a compatible mate, not a man you think will solve your problems. Ask any married woman. Men can not, and do not, solve all your problems.
6. HAVING A BABY FOR THE WRONG REASON:
Women who have a child to fix a broken relationship often become trapped with a man they should dump. Make an intelligent decision about having a child. You have the power over you own body. Do NOT have a baby just to keep a man in a relationship with you. That spells DOOM and DISASTER.
7. HAVING LOW STANDARDS:
Over the years the standards and requirements of Women have lowered. Men know that and have taken advantage of it. Many women do not require anything of a man. So many standards have been lowered by women that now a man does not have to climb over a very high bar to get to her. So now you have more men who can get away with more things with more women without any repercussions. Do not accept less than you deserve. And you deserve everything.
8. NOT LOVING YOURSELF:
Many women sacrifice everything just to please a man, whether its your Boyfriend or Husband. Learn to place yourself first in life and be happy first before transferring the happiness to someone else. Don't live your life for someone else. Life is short, you need to be happy.
Thank you for reading livelifetips.blogspot.com where every articles expands your knowledge, motivates you to excellence, inspires you to succeed and increases your faith.
Share With A Friend
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Kindly leave your comment.
Regards,
P.S. Your relationship success depends on how you decide and take action.
MA.
Thursday, 12 December 2013
14 PEOPLE TO KEEP YOU GOING.
Below is a list of people you can learn from if the going is getting tougher on a daily basis. You need to know that tough time never last but tough people do.
1. Oprah was fired from one of her early anchor gigs, after being labelled “unfit for TV.” According to Wikipedia, "she was born into poverty."
2. Tim Ferriss had twenty-six publishing rejections for The 4-Hour Work week—which spent months on The New York Times Bestseller list.
3. Twilight author Stephenie Meyer had nine rejections from literary agents, and then…a $750,000 three-book deal.
4. Lady Gaga was dropped by Island Def Jam Records after only three months.
5. Project Runway winner Christian Siriano was rejected by the Fashion Institute of Technology. After winning Project Runway, his fashion line brought in $1.2 million in the first two years.
6. Abraham Lincoln had less than five years of formal education.
7. Marilyn Monroe was booted from 20th Century-Fox, after producers declared her “unattractive.”
8. Beethoven was almost completely deaf when he composed “The Ode To Joy.” He removed the legs from his piano and placed it on the floor, letting the vibrations resonate through his body.
9. Emily Dickinson had just a handful of poems published during her lifetime—out of over 1,800 completed works.
10. Louisa May Alcott was encouraged by her family to find work as a household servant. She wrote Little Women instead.
11. Verdi was rejected from a prestigious music conservatory in Milan because he “wasn’t talented enough.” He wrote twenty-eight operas, including La Traviata, Aida, and Othello.
12. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.
13. A young cartoonist, Walt Disney faced many rejections from newspaper editors, who said he had no talent.
14. One day a partially deaf four year old kid came home with a note in his pocket from his teacher, "Your Tommy is too stupid to learn, get him out of the school." His mother read the note and answered, "My Tommy is not stupid to learn, I will teach him myself." And that Tommy grew up to be the great Thomas Edison.
Do you consider these people failures? They succeeded in spite of problems, not in the absence of them. But to the outside world, it appears as if luck smiles on them. All success stories are stories of great failures. The only difference is that every time they failed, they bounced back. This is called failing forward, rather than backward. You learn and move forward. Learn from your failure and keep moving. Successful people don't do great things; they only do small things in a great way.
As mentioned in Shiv Khera’s book, "You can win", Setbacks or failure are inevitable in life. A failure can act as a driving force and also teach us humility. In grief you will find courage and faith to overcome the setback. We need to learn to become victors, not victims.
Ask yourself after every setback: What did I learn from this experience? Only then will you be able to turn a stumbling block into a stepping stone.
You need to read the full biography of these people to learn from the hurdles they crossed before becoming successful. You do read about their success stories but why not try to read about their failure stories as well.
Finally, I implore you to:
Keep going.
Keep going.
Keep going.
Till your change come.
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1. Oprah was fired from one of her early anchor gigs, after being labelled “unfit for TV.” According to Wikipedia, "she was born into poverty."
2. Tim Ferriss had twenty-six publishing rejections for The 4-Hour Work week—which spent months on The New York Times Bestseller list.
3. Twilight author Stephenie Meyer had nine rejections from literary agents, and then…a $750,000 three-book deal.
4. Lady Gaga was dropped by Island Def Jam Records after only three months.
5. Project Runway winner Christian Siriano was rejected by the Fashion Institute of Technology. After winning Project Runway, his fashion line brought in $1.2 million in the first two years.
6. Abraham Lincoln had less than five years of formal education.
7. Marilyn Monroe was booted from 20th Century-Fox, after producers declared her “unattractive.”
8. Beethoven was almost completely deaf when he composed “The Ode To Joy.” He removed the legs from his piano and placed it on the floor, letting the vibrations resonate through his body.
9. Emily Dickinson had just a handful of poems published during her lifetime—out of over 1,800 completed works.
10. Louisa May Alcott was encouraged by her family to find work as a household servant. She wrote Little Women instead.
11. Verdi was rejected from a prestigious music conservatory in Milan because he “wasn’t talented enough.” He wrote twenty-eight operas, including La Traviata, Aida, and Othello.
12. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.
13. A young cartoonist, Walt Disney faced many rejections from newspaper editors, who said he had no talent.
14. One day a partially deaf four year old kid came home with a note in his pocket from his teacher, "Your Tommy is too stupid to learn, get him out of the school." His mother read the note and answered, "My Tommy is not stupid to learn, I will teach him myself." And that Tommy grew up to be the great Thomas Edison.
Do you consider these people failures? They succeeded in spite of problems, not in the absence of them. But to the outside world, it appears as if luck smiles on them. All success stories are stories of great failures. The only difference is that every time they failed, they bounced back. This is called failing forward, rather than backward. You learn and move forward. Learn from your failure and keep moving. Successful people don't do great things; they only do small things in a great way.
As mentioned in Shiv Khera’s book, "You can win", Setbacks or failure are inevitable in life. A failure can act as a driving force and also teach us humility. In grief you will find courage and faith to overcome the setback. We need to learn to become victors, not victims.
Ask yourself after every setback: What did I learn from this experience? Only then will you be able to turn a stumbling block into a stepping stone.
You need to read the full biography of these people to learn from the hurdles they crossed before becoming successful. You do read about their success stories but why not try to read about their failure stories as well.
Finally, I implore you to:
Keep going.
Keep going.
Keep going.
Till your change come.
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MA.
Wednesday, 11 December 2013
POSSIBLE REASONS AND SOLUTIONS FOR INFIDELITY IN MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP.
: Majority of the time, people cheat because they feel their needs or expectations are not being met. Expectations can be in terms of attention/time, money or material possessions and sexual needs or desire. More so, it might be as a result of some habit on behalf of either of the partner which the other partner has been trying to change but couldn't. Am I trying to justify cheaters? Not at all.
But when someone feels their needs aren’t being met, they will typically take measures to meet those needs. (And when I say needs, I’m not talking about food or shelter, but emotional needs that are almost as important as food and shelter.)
Imagine a thirteen year old boy who is hungry, starving even, because he hadn’t eaten in days. If given the opportunity to “steal” to satisfy his hunger, he may succumb to the pressure and “steal.” Does this make it right? Certainly not. Understandable maybe, right, no. If his parents had given him the needed food, the pressure to steal probably wouldn’t have gotten the best of him.
Now, is it the parent’s fault that the teenager stole? No, he’s responsible for his own actions, but they certainly made it easier for him. They opened the door for such behavior by not adequately meeting the child’s needs at home.
In a nutshell, people cheat to meet their needs. If you want to prevent your partner from cheating, you need to find out what their needs are and meet them. How do you find out what your partners needs are? You ask them, and then you ask them how you’re ranking in those areas on a scale of 1-10 (have them write it out). If they rank you relatively low on a particular need, ask them how you can improve.
Your partner may respond saying they need more compliments, more flowers or more appreciation.
By ensuring you’re meeting your partner’s expectations you are closing the door that’s responsible for MOST infidelity. The unpopular reality is, if you’re in the relationship, you have some responsibility for the relationship, you can’t say I’m 100 percent innocent in the matter (if you’re cheated on).
Recognize your responsibilities by asking what the expectations are, and then meet those expectations (as long as they’re not immoral, illegal or something like that). If you do this, you will probably not be cheated on.
We should all ensure that we are constantly letting our partners know how much they are needed and appreciated (with our words and actions).
But the question is, what if I’m meeting my partner’s needs and they still cheat?
Well, even though you maybe doing everything you’re supposed to be doing. You’re probably not meeting all of your partners needs. Let me explain, some people have a need of wanting more than one partner, because they have refused to bridal their lustful desires (by controlling their thoughts).
Because the need of multiple partners can’t be met by a single partner, they cheat. I could write an entire series on this, but in short, make sure your partner is comfortable with the idea of being in a committed relationship (with one person, you ) before you proceed any further.
: Another perspective of infidelity is probably the most well known: Spouses cheat because of problems in their relationship - something is missing, passion has faded, partners feel lonely, people find someone who treats them better or who appreciates them more than their current spouse, and so on. Simply stated, people claim that they are not happy in their relationship so they look for love and affection elsewhere.
The million dollar question is, how do I escape this? It is simple. You'll need to trace the origin of your relationship if you really want to escape this. This has to do with looking into how you started your relationship then in which you see each other as source of happiness.
: Another perspective as why partner cheat is more detailed in nature. This explanation ignores the reasons that people "give" for cheating and looks deeper into our human nature. This tends to explain that it is the human nature to cheat. To some, human beings cannot be satisfied just like a desert. Human beings have insatiable desire truly. The escape route here is to seek counsel, check yourself, and talk to your God
: The jet age reason for infidelity is, "because my spouse or partner is doing it" Since he or she has cheated or is cheating on me let me also pay him or her back in his or her own coin.
This shouldn't be the case. Your partner is cheating on you quite alright but you also cheating on him or her doesn't justify your stand. Instead of paying evil for evil, try to find the missing piece in your relationship and fix it.
Finally, by trying to meet your partner expectations or needs as explained above, restoring the passion and happiness you've built your relationship on from the onset, and relying on God, praying and committing your relationship to God's hand can work wonder and reinstate peace into your marriage or relationship.
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But when someone feels their needs aren’t being met, they will typically take measures to meet those needs. (And when I say needs, I’m not talking about food or shelter, but emotional needs that are almost as important as food and shelter.)
Imagine a thirteen year old boy who is hungry, starving even, because he hadn’t eaten in days. If given the opportunity to “steal” to satisfy his hunger, he may succumb to the pressure and “steal.” Does this make it right? Certainly not. Understandable maybe, right, no. If his parents had given him the needed food, the pressure to steal probably wouldn’t have gotten the best of him.
Now, is it the parent’s fault that the teenager stole? No, he’s responsible for his own actions, but they certainly made it easier for him. They opened the door for such behavior by not adequately meeting the child’s needs at home.
In a nutshell, people cheat to meet their needs. If you want to prevent your partner from cheating, you need to find out what their needs are and meet them. How do you find out what your partners needs are? You ask them, and then you ask them how you’re ranking in those areas on a scale of 1-10 (have them write it out). If they rank you relatively low on a particular need, ask them how you can improve.
Your partner may respond saying they need more compliments, more flowers or more appreciation.
By ensuring you’re meeting your partner’s expectations you are closing the door that’s responsible for MOST infidelity. The unpopular reality is, if you’re in the relationship, you have some responsibility for the relationship, you can’t say I’m 100 percent innocent in the matter (if you’re cheated on).
Recognize your responsibilities by asking what the expectations are, and then meet those expectations (as long as they’re not immoral, illegal or something like that). If you do this, you will probably not be cheated on.
We should all ensure that we are constantly letting our partners know how much they are needed and appreciated (with our words and actions).
But the question is, what if I’m meeting my partner’s needs and they still cheat?
Well, even though you maybe doing everything you’re supposed to be doing. You’re probably not meeting all of your partners needs. Let me explain, some people have a need of wanting more than one partner, because they have refused to bridal their lustful desires (by controlling their thoughts).
Because the need of multiple partners can’t be met by a single partner, they cheat. I could write an entire series on this, but in short, make sure your partner is comfortable with the idea of being in a committed relationship (with one person, you ) before you proceed any further.
: Another perspective of infidelity is probably the most well known: Spouses cheat because of problems in their relationship - something is missing, passion has faded, partners feel lonely, people find someone who treats them better or who appreciates them more than their current spouse, and so on. Simply stated, people claim that they are not happy in their relationship so they look for love and affection elsewhere.
The million dollar question is, how do I escape this? It is simple. You'll need to trace the origin of your relationship if you really want to escape this. This has to do with looking into how you started your relationship then in which you see each other as source of happiness.
: Another perspective as why partner cheat is more detailed in nature. This explanation ignores the reasons that people "give" for cheating and looks deeper into our human nature. This tends to explain that it is the human nature to cheat. To some, human beings cannot be satisfied just like a desert. Human beings have insatiable desire truly. The escape route here is to seek counsel, check yourself, and talk to your God
: The jet age reason for infidelity is, "because my spouse or partner is doing it" Since he or she has cheated or is cheating on me let me also pay him or her back in his or her own coin.
This shouldn't be the case. Your partner is cheating on you quite alright but you also cheating on him or her doesn't justify your stand. Instead of paying evil for evil, try to find the missing piece in your relationship and fix it.
Finally, by trying to meet your partner expectations or needs as explained above, restoring the passion and happiness you've built your relationship on from the onset, and relying on God, praying and committing your relationship to God's hand can work wonder and reinstate peace into your marriage or relationship.
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ATTRIBUTES OF A SUCCESSFUL PERSON.
In 1905 a Boston magazine held a contest asking people to send in an essay about what constitutes success. A Kansas housewife named Bessie Stanley heard about the contest and submitted her essay. To her surprise she won the contest and the $250 prize that came with it. Later her essay was converted into a poem and then repeatedly misattributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson or Robert Louis Stevenson.
Her simple definitions of the attributes of a successful person are a great reminder to all of us that success comes in many forms and in an infinite number of areas of life. Find something to improve on every day and you will find success!
WHAT CONSTITUTES SUCCESS
He has achieved success who has lived well,
laughed often and loved much;
who has gained the respect of intelligent men
and the love of little children;
who has filled his niche and accomplished his task;
who has left the world better than he found it,
whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul;
who has never lacked appreciation of earth’s beauty
or failed to express it;
who has always looked for the best in others
and given them the best he had;
whose life was an inspiration;
whose memory a benediction.
—Bessie Stanley 1905
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Her simple definitions of the attributes of a successful person are a great reminder to all of us that success comes in many forms and in an infinite number of areas of life. Find something to improve on every day and you will find success!
WHAT CONSTITUTES SUCCESS
He has achieved success who has lived well,
laughed often and loved much;
who has gained the respect of intelligent men
and the love of little children;
who has filled his niche and accomplished his task;
who has left the world better than he found it,
whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul;
who has never lacked appreciation of earth’s beauty
or failed to express it;
who has always looked for the best in others
and given them the best he had;
whose life was an inspiration;
whose memory a benediction.
—Bessie Stanley 1905
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Monday, 9 December 2013
16 bad habits in your own relationship.
Are you indulging in any of these 16 bad habits in your own relationship? These habits may seem trivial to many, but it’s these very habits that could go from a minor annoyance to a big reason for a break up soon enough if you don’t keep an eye on them.
#1 Taken for granted. You know your partner’s sweet and caring. And you love them for it. But do you remember to appreciate your partner and thank them for all the little things they do, be it finding your keys or opening the doors for you?
You may think it’s silly to constantly thank your partner for every little thing they do. But chances are, you may start taking these sweet gestures for granted even before you realize it, and they’d turn into expectations instead!
#2 Lover pleaser. You try really hard to please your partner, but you get really upset when your partner doesn’t realize you’ve done something for them. And yet, you continue to do nice things for them all the time *which they take for granted* and eventually turn into a relationship martyr.
If your partner takes you for granted, talk to them about it. Bottling your rage or sadness will not help you. Perhaps, your partner didn’t even realize that you’ve done something sweet for them. Communicate and express yourself now and then, and stop trying to be a helpless people pleaser.
#3 Testing your partner. You intentionally make big demands or throw tantrums just to see if your partner cares enough to go the extra mile for you. These petty tests are rather common at the start of a new relationship when you’d want your lover to prove their love for you, but don’t carry this habit into the later stages of love or your constant games and tests would annoy your lover.
#4 Blame games. Don’t put the fault entirely on your partner if you believe you have a small role to play too. It’s easy to point a finger and accuse your partner for the mess that both of you are in. But by doing that, your partner would feel cornered and helpless, and even angry and hurt.
On the other hand, by sharing the blame or acknowledging your role in the mistake, you’d be giving your partner the emotional support they so badly need at that moment.
#5 Silent treatment. Do you choose to ignore your partner instead of talking about something that’s hurt you? You’re not alone. Many men and women would rather sit down in the corner and stare at the ceiling than answer their partner when they’re annoyed for some reason. Never do that because you’d only end up hurting your partner, make them feel miserable, and hate you at the same time.
#6 Unbalanced expectations. Do you have high expectations from your partner, and expect them to have lower expectations from you *because you’re too busy providing for the family or busy doing something else?*
The roles between a husband and a wife or a boyfriend and a girlfriend could be different, but that gives no right for one partner to demand more from the other partner, and give less in return.
#7 Monosyllables. Don’t answer in monosyllables in the middle of a conversation. Period. Answering with a ‘yes’, ‘no’ or an ‘hmmm’ is just a rude thing to do, even if you’re pretending to be concentrating on something else.
When your partner tries to communicate with you, try to answer back in open ended questions. It’ll help both of you interact better and understand each other better. You need to remember that conversations with monosyllables usually end up dead in a minute or two, and over a period of time, your monosyllabic answers would just push both of you apart.
#8 Don’t be a brat. Do you constantly like having things your way? It could be as silly as watching a genre of movies you enjoy or dining out at places that you like. Your partner may find your tantrums cute to begin with, but if you always want things your own way, there will come a time very soon when your partner would snap and just hate everything you like because they’re so sick of it!
#9 Making a scene in public. Don’t yell at your partner or humiliate them in public or when someone else is around. Your frustrations may be valid and you may have every good reason to accuse your partner of something, or walk away from them. But ridiculing your partner or hurting them in public will do a lot of damage to their ego, and that’s something that won’t heal very soon.
#10 You lie. For the silliest of reasons! And you just can’t help yourself. You may be lying to your partner because you’re afraid of their temper, or because you don’t want to appear weak in front of them. The reasons could be several, but the end result is almost always the same. Lies affect relationships negatively, and will lead to loss of trust. Stop lying and learn to confront the truth, you’ll have a much better life.
#11 “I don’t want to talk about it!” Avoiding discussions, especially if it’s stressful may seem like the easy thing to do at a particular moment. But stuffing all the difficult conversations in some dark corner will only leave you more stressed, and leave your partner frustrated and angry. As difficult as a particular decision or a relationship conversation may be, you can solve it only by talking about it with your lover. Remember, every journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.
#12 You get irritated easily. Do you find yourself getting irritated with your partner now and then, and have no idea why you feel that way? In all probability, there’s a subtle reason behind why you’re annoyed with your partner. So instead of snapping at them or behaving in an irritable manner, sit down and ask yourself why you’re feeling annoyed. Or better yet, tell your partner that you feel annoyed, but can’t figure out why you’re feeling that way. Believe me, you’ll feel a lot better almost the very second you say that to your lover!
#13 Every moment is together time. Do you spend every waking moment *other than work* with each other? You could scoff at other couples who do things individually and believe you’re the better couple because both of you do everything together. But in reality, doing every single thing together can do more harm than good because it stops both of you from having your own individual lives.
#14 You don’t compliment enough. When was the last time you complimented your partner when they dressed up for you? As the years go by, it’s easy to overlook the little things that your lover does that makes them awesome and take it for granted. Compliment your partner often and let them see that you still admire them, and are awed and smitten by them.
#15 Time for friends. Do you subconsciously nag your partner or get annoyed with them when they leave you alone and go out with their own friends? This is pretty common, and there’s a good chance you feel it if your partner has more friends than you do or if you’re a loner. But remember, hanging out with friends now and then isn’t all bad. It gives both of you the kind of space you both need to grow as individuals.
#16 You don’t discuss the future. Firstly, do both of you have common goals for the future? Most couples don’t talk about the future at all, and when it comes to making a decision, you may feel like you got the short end of the stick.
Don’t avoid discussing about the future just because both of you have contrasting opinions. It’ll only push both of you further away. Communicate with each other and try reasoning the differences out. As hard as it may seem, it’s always better than avoiding confrontations in love.
Sometimes, it’s easy to assume these are trivial details that aren’t a big deal. But if you continue with these 16 bad relationship habits for more than a few months, it’s only a matter of time before your partner would end up getting frustrated with your behavior. - Nairaland
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#1 Taken for granted. You know your partner’s sweet and caring. And you love them for it. But do you remember to appreciate your partner and thank them for all the little things they do, be it finding your keys or opening the doors for you?
You may think it’s silly to constantly thank your partner for every little thing they do. But chances are, you may start taking these sweet gestures for granted even before you realize it, and they’d turn into expectations instead!
#2 Lover pleaser. You try really hard to please your partner, but you get really upset when your partner doesn’t realize you’ve done something for them. And yet, you continue to do nice things for them all the time *which they take for granted* and eventually turn into a relationship martyr.
If your partner takes you for granted, talk to them about it. Bottling your rage or sadness will not help you. Perhaps, your partner didn’t even realize that you’ve done something sweet for them. Communicate and express yourself now and then, and stop trying to be a helpless people pleaser.
#3 Testing your partner. You intentionally make big demands or throw tantrums just to see if your partner cares enough to go the extra mile for you. These petty tests are rather common at the start of a new relationship when you’d want your lover to prove their love for you, but don’t carry this habit into the later stages of love or your constant games and tests would annoy your lover.
#4 Blame games. Don’t put the fault entirely on your partner if you believe you have a small role to play too. It’s easy to point a finger and accuse your partner for the mess that both of you are in. But by doing that, your partner would feel cornered and helpless, and even angry and hurt.
On the other hand, by sharing the blame or acknowledging your role in the mistake, you’d be giving your partner the emotional support they so badly need at that moment.
#5 Silent treatment. Do you choose to ignore your partner instead of talking about something that’s hurt you? You’re not alone. Many men and women would rather sit down in the corner and stare at the ceiling than answer their partner when they’re annoyed for some reason. Never do that because you’d only end up hurting your partner, make them feel miserable, and hate you at the same time.
#6 Unbalanced expectations. Do you have high expectations from your partner, and expect them to have lower expectations from you *because you’re too busy providing for the family or busy doing something else?*
The roles between a husband and a wife or a boyfriend and a girlfriend could be different, but that gives no right for one partner to demand more from the other partner, and give less in return.
#7 Monosyllables. Don’t answer in monosyllables in the middle of a conversation. Period. Answering with a ‘yes’, ‘no’ or an ‘hmmm’ is just a rude thing to do, even if you’re pretending to be concentrating on something else.
When your partner tries to communicate with you, try to answer back in open ended questions. It’ll help both of you interact better and understand each other better. You need to remember that conversations with monosyllables usually end up dead in a minute or two, and over a period of time, your monosyllabic answers would just push both of you apart.
#8 Don’t be a brat. Do you constantly like having things your way? It could be as silly as watching a genre of movies you enjoy or dining out at places that you like. Your partner may find your tantrums cute to begin with, but if you always want things your own way, there will come a time very soon when your partner would snap and just hate everything you like because they’re so sick of it!
#9 Making a scene in public. Don’t yell at your partner or humiliate them in public or when someone else is around. Your frustrations may be valid and you may have every good reason to accuse your partner of something, or walk away from them. But ridiculing your partner or hurting them in public will do a lot of damage to their ego, and that’s something that won’t heal very soon.
#10 You lie. For the silliest of reasons! And you just can’t help yourself. You may be lying to your partner because you’re afraid of their temper, or because you don’t want to appear weak in front of them. The reasons could be several, but the end result is almost always the same. Lies affect relationships negatively, and will lead to loss of trust. Stop lying and learn to confront the truth, you’ll have a much better life.
#11 “I don’t want to talk about it!” Avoiding discussions, especially if it’s stressful may seem like the easy thing to do at a particular moment. But stuffing all the difficult conversations in some dark corner will only leave you more stressed, and leave your partner frustrated and angry. As difficult as a particular decision or a relationship conversation may be, you can solve it only by talking about it with your lover. Remember, every journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.
#12 You get irritated easily. Do you find yourself getting irritated with your partner now and then, and have no idea why you feel that way? In all probability, there’s a subtle reason behind why you’re annoyed with your partner. So instead of snapping at them or behaving in an irritable manner, sit down and ask yourself why you’re feeling annoyed. Or better yet, tell your partner that you feel annoyed, but can’t figure out why you’re feeling that way. Believe me, you’ll feel a lot better almost the very second you say that to your lover!
#13 Every moment is together time. Do you spend every waking moment *other than work* with each other? You could scoff at other couples who do things individually and believe you’re the better couple because both of you do everything together. But in reality, doing every single thing together can do more harm than good because it stops both of you from having your own individual lives.
#14 You don’t compliment enough. When was the last time you complimented your partner when they dressed up for you? As the years go by, it’s easy to overlook the little things that your lover does that makes them awesome and take it for granted. Compliment your partner often and let them see that you still admire them, and are awed and smitten by them.
#15 Time for friends. Do you subconsciously nag your partner or get annoyed with them when they leave you alone and go out with their own friends? This is pretty common, and there’s a good chance you feel it if your partner has more friends than you do or if you’re a loner. But remember, hanging out with friends now and then isn’t all bad. It gives both of you the kind of space you both need to grow as individuals.
#16 You don’t discuss the future. Firstly, do both of you have common goals for the future? Most couples don’t talk about the future at all, and when it comes to making a decision, you may feel like you got the short end of the stick.
Don’t avoid discussing about the future just because both of you have contrasting opinions. It’ll only push both of you further away. Communicate with each other and try reasoning the differences out. As hard as it may seem, it’s always better than avoiding confrontations in love.
Sometimes, it’s easy to assume these are trivial details that aren’t a big deal. But if you continue with these 16 bad relationship habits for more than a few months, it’s only a matter of time before your partner would end up getting frustrated with your behavior. - Nairaland
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Sunday, 8 December 2013
TRIBUTE TO MADIBA.
It is no longer a news that Nelson Mandela, the former South African president and anti-apartheid hero has died. The world has lost a great leader. He departed from this planet at the age of 95. Though he is gone, his legacy lives on.
Below are some collection of freedom quotes by Nelson Mandela.
These inspirational quotes were written during his days as a freedom fighter.
Nelson Mandela’s Quote On Racism
This was released as his 1st court statement back in 1962.
“I hate race discrimination most intensely and in all its manifestations. I have fought it all during my life; I fight it now, and will do so until the end of my days. Even although I now happen to be tried by one whose opinion I hold in high esteem, I detest most violently the set-up that surrounds me here. It makes me feel that I am a black man in a white man’s court. This should not be”
Nelson Mandela’s Anti-Apartheid Quotes
Written as a defence statement during his treason trial back in 1961
“We are not anti-white, we are against white supremacy … we have condemned racialism no matter by whom it is professed. ”
Written during his Rally in Durban on Feb 25, 1990
“In Natal, apartheid is a deadly cancer in our midst, setting house against house, and eating away at the precious ties that bound us together. This strife among ourselves wastes our energy and destroys our unity. My message to those of you involved in this battle of brother against brother is this: take your guns, your knives, and your pangas, and throw them into the sea! Close down the death factories. End this war now! -
Mandela on Racial Equality & Human Rights
Taken from his defence statement during the Rivonia trial in 1964
“I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons will live together in harmony with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live for, and to see realised. But my Lord, if needs be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.”-
Mandela’s Quote on Service To Humanity
Written on the 1st day of his release in Cape Town back in 1990.
“I stand here before you not as a prophet but as a humble servant of you, the people. Your tireless and heroic sacrifices have made it possible for me to be here today. I therefore place the remaining years of my life in your hands.”
Inaugural Address, Pretoria 9 May 1994.
“Never, never and never again shall it be that this beautiful land will again experience the oppression of one by another and suffer the indignity of being the skunk of the world”
Victory Speech in 1994
“I watched, along with all of you, as the tens of thousands of our people stood patiently in long queues for many hours. Some sleeping on the open ground overnight waiting to cast this momentous vote. ”
“This is one of the most important moments in the life of our country. I stand here before you filled with deep pride and joy: — pride in the ordinary, humble people of this country. You have shown such a calm, patient determination to reclaim this country as your own, – and joy that we can loudly proclaim from the rooftops — free at last! ”
Freedom Fighter
“I was called a terrorist yesterday, but when I came out of jail, many people embraced me, including my enemies, and that is what I normally tell other people who say those who are struggling for liberation in their country are terrorists. I tell them that I was also a terrorist yesterday, but, today, I am admired by the very people who said I was one.” – Larry King Live, 16 May 2000
South Africa
“You may succeed in delaying, but never in preventing the transition of South Africa to a democracy. – Long Walk to Freedom”
“The authorities liked to say that we received a balanced diet; it was indeed balanced — between the unpalatable and the inedible. -Long Walk to Freedom.”
“South Africans have no concept of time and this is also why we can’t solve poverty and social problems… It’s now 10 years since the fall of the Apartheid government and we cannot blame Apartheid for being tardy.”
Nelson Mandela’s Quotes On Freedom
“I have walked that long road to freedom. I have tried not to falter; I have made missteps along the way. But I have discovered the secret that after climbing a great hill, one only finds that there are many more hills to climb. I have taken a moment here to rest, to steal a view of the glorious vista that surrounds me, to look back on the distance I have come. But I can rest only for a moment, for with freedom comes responsibilities, and I dare not linger, for my long walk is not yet ended.”
“I always knew that someday I would once again feel the grass under my feet and walk in the sunshine as a free man. – Long Walk to Freedom””When I walked out of prison, that was my mission, to liberate the oppressed and the oppressor both”
“For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.” – Long Walk to Freedom.”
“There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we reach the mountaintop of our desires. “- Long Walk to Freedom
Heroic Sacrifices
“We dedicate this day to all the heroes and heroines in this country and the rest of the world who sacrificed in many ways and surrendered their lives so that we could be free.
“No one truly knows a nation until one has been inside its jails.
Nelson Mandela’s Quotes On Leadership
“Lead from the back – and let others believe they are in front.”
“A nation should not be judged by how it treats its highest citizens but its lowest ones.”
Nelson Mandela’s Quotes On Africa
“We owe it to all the peoples of the sub-continent to ensure that they see in us, not merely good leaders waxing lyrical about development, but as the front commanders in the blast furnaces of labour, productive investments and visible change.” Southern African Development Community (SADC) 15th anniversary summit, Johannesburg 13 September 1995
“I am the product of Africa and her long-cherished view of rebirth that can now be realised so that all of her children may play in the sun.” – Nelson Mandela’s final speech as president to the South African parliament, Cape Town 26 March 1999
Iraq War speech, 2003
“What I am condemning is that one power, with a president [George W. Bush] who has no foresight, who cannot think properly, is now wanting to plunge the world into a holocaust.”
Nelson Mandela’s Quote On Hope
“I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed toward the sun, one’s feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.”
Nelson Mandela’s Quotes On Children
“Few things make the life of a parent more rewarding and sweet as successful children.”
“Our children are our greatest treasure. They are our future. Those who abuse them tear at the fabric of our society and weaken our nation.” – National Men‘s March, 1997
Mandela’s Quote About Life
“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. “
Nelson Mandela’s Quote On Fear
“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Long Walk to Freedom.
Nelson Mandela’s Quote Education
“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.”
Nelson Mandela’s Quotes On Love
“No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” – Long Walk to Freedom.
“If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.”
May his soul rest in perfect peace.
MA.
Below are some collection of freedom quotes by Nelson Mandela.
These inspirational quotes were written during his days as a freedom fighter.
Nelson Mandela’s Quote On Racism
This was released as his 1st court statement back in 1962.
“I hate race discrimination most intensely and in all its manifestations. I have fought it all during my life; I fight it now, and will do so until the end of my days. Even although I now happen to be tried by one whose opinion I hold in high esteem, I detest most violently the set-up that surrounds me here. It makes me feel that I am a black man in a white man’s court. This should not be”
Nelson Mandela’s Anti-Apartheid Quotes
Written as a defence statement during his treason trial back in 1961
“We are not anti-white, we are against white supremacy … we have condemned racialism no matter by whom it is professed. ”
Written during his Rally in Durban on Feb 25, 1990
“In Natal, apartheid is a deadly cancer in our midst, setting house against house, and eating away at the precious ties that bound us together. This strife among ourselves wastes our energy and destroys our unity. My message to those of you involved in this battle of brother against brother is this: take your guns, your knives, and your pangas, and throw them into the sea! Close down the death factories. End this war now! -
Mandela on Racial Equality & Human Rights
Taken from his defence statement during the Rivonia trial in 1964
“I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons will live together in harmony with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live for, and to see realised. But my Lord, if needs be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.”-
Mandela’s Quote on Service To Humanity
Written on the 1st day of his release in Cape Town back in 1990.
“I stand here before you not as a prophet but as a humble servant of you, the people. Your tireless and heroic sacrifices have made it possible for me to be here today. I therefore place the remaining years of my life in your hands.”
Inaugural Address, Pretoria 9 May 1994.
“Never, never and never again shall it be that this beautiful land will again experience the oppression of one by another and suffer the indignity of being the skunk of the world”
Victory Speech in 1994
“I watched, along with all of you, as the tens of thousands of our people stood patiently in long queues for many hours. Some sleeping on the open ground overnight waiting to cast this momentous vote. ”
“This is one of the most important moments in the life of our country. I stand here before you filled with deep pride and joy: — pride in the ordinary, humble people of this country. You have shown such a calm, patient determination to reclaim this country as your own, – and joy that we can loudly proclaim from the rooftops — free at last! ”
Freedom Fighter
“I was called a terrorist yesterday, but when I came out of jail, many people embraced me, including my enemies, and that is what I normally tell other people who say those who are struggling for liberation in their country are terrorists. I tell them that I was also a terrorist yesterday, but, today, I am admired by the very people who said I was one.” – Larry King Live, 16 May 2000
South Africa
“You may succeed in delaying, but never in preventing the transition of South Africa to a democracy. – Long Walk to Freedom”
“The authorities liked to say that we received a balanced diet; it was indeed balanced — between the unpalatable and the inedible. -Long Walk to Freedom.”
“South Africans have no concept of time and this is also why we can’t solve poverty and social problems… It’s now 10 years since the fall of the Apartheid government and we cannot blame Apartheid for being tardy.”
Nelson Mandela’s Quotes On Freedom
“I have walked that long road to freedom. I have tried not to falter; I have made missteps along the way. But I have discovered the secret that after climbing a great hill, one only finds that there are many more hills to climb. I have taken a moment here to rest, to steal a view of the glorious vista that surrounds me, to look back on the distance I have come. But I can rest only for a moment, for with freedom comes responsibilities, and I dare not linger, for my long walk is not yet ended.”
“I always knew that someday I would once again feel the grass under my feet and walk in the sunshine as a free man. – Long Walk to Freedom””When I walked out of prison, that was my mission, to liberate the oppressed and the oppressor both”
“For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.” – Long Walk to Freedom.”
“There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we reach the mountaintop of our desires. “- Long Walk to Freedom
Heroic Sacrifices
“We dedicate this day to all the heroes and heroines in this country and the rest of the world who sacrificed in many ways and surrendered their lives so that we could be free.
“No one truly knows a nation until one has been inside its jails.
Nelson Mandela’s Quotes On Leadership
“Lead from the back – and let others believe they are in front.”
“A nation should not be judged by how it treats its highest citizens but its lowest ones.”
Nelson Mandela’s Quotes On Africa
“We owe it to all the peoples of the sub-continent to ensure that they see in us, not merely good leaders waxing lyrical about development, but as the front commanders in the blast furnaces of labour, productive investments and visible change.” Southern African Development Community (SADC) 15th anniversary summit, Johannesburg 13 September 1995
“I am the product of Africa and her long-cherished view of rebirth that can now be realised so that all of her children may play in the sun.” – Nelson Mandela’s final speech as president to the South African parliament, Cape Town 26 March 1999
Iraq War speech, 2003
“What I am condemning is that one power, with a president [George W. Bush] who has no foresight, who cannot think properly, is now wanting to plunge the world into a holocaust.”
Nelson Mandela’s Quote On Hope
“I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed toward the sun, one’s feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.”
Nelson Mandela’s Quotes On Children
“Few things make the life of a parent more rewarding and sweet as successful children.”
“Our children are our greatest treasure. They are our future. Those who abuse them tear at the fabric of our society and weaken our nation.” – National Men‘s March, 1997
Mandela’s Quote About Life
“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. “
Nelson Mandela’s Quote On Fear
“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Long Walk to Freedom.
Nelson Mandela’s Quote Education
“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.”
Nelson Mandela’s Quotes On Love
“No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” – Long Walk to Freedom.
“If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.”
May his soul rest in perfect peace.
MA.
Saturday, 7 December 2013
PRAYER TIME.
A voice said to me this morning, "whoever curse you shall be cursed and whoever bless you shall be blessed." To appreciate my beautiful and handsome readers, I have decided to extend this grace to you by praying for you this day.
2013 is gradually getting to an end. The excitement is everywhere to bid the year goodbye and welcome another glorious year. Everyone is preparing to shout "Happy New Year" and at the same time pronounce their new year resolutions merely i.e without proper documentation as to how to achieve the resolutions. Very few stick to their resolutions every year by accomplishing what they have pronounced or written down. You can check an article I once posted here about accomplishing your new year resolutions to be guided.
In response to my letter of request to God, I have been directed to pray for you (my humble followers and readers) as follows:
A. You shall be great.
B. God shall always be there for you.
C. You'll surely be successful in all your endeavour.
D. If you're single, you'll get an ideal spouse for an everlasting marital bliss.
E. If you're married, your marriage will not fail.
F. You'll be celebrated in the forthcoming year.
Did I hear you say a louder Amen to all these prayer? I'm sure you have shouted a resounding amen. I have the faith that all these shall come to pass only if you're ready to do what it takes to make them realistic. We cannot reap where we didn't not sow for neither God nor spirits will grant us that favour.
Kindly note that:
A. You shall be great only if you're ready to nurture your nature by awaken the seed of greatness in you. You have a particular ability, power, potential etc in you that must be developed. Plant this seed of greatness today.
B. God will always be there for you if you're ready to find Him. A portion that interest me in the Bible says "seek and you shall find, knock and it shall be opened."
C. You'll become successful if you're ready to do what it takes to be successful. Success requires a great deal of effort. And on the way to success island is failure. How prepare are you to cross this hurdle?
D. You can only get an ideal spouse if you're also ideal. The law of attraction holds here.
E. Your marriage will not fail if you can have a solid foundation for it.
F. You'll be celebrated in the forthcoming year if you can set your priority right. Setting your priority rights start with your new year resolution. Write down what you want to achieve, how you want to achieve them and when you want them achieved. You can use the SMART mnemonic of goal settings.
In conclusion,
I wish you whatever you wish yourself in the coming year and beyond. I must remind you that one or two articles have been posted in respect of the points discussed above. Take your time today to do a thorough review. Remember, we cannot reap where we did not sow for neither God nor spirits will grant us that favour and faith without work is........ God has thoughts of peace and not of evil for you, to give you a future and hope as recorded by Prophet Jeremiah in the Bible but you must do something to enjoy all these goodies even if it is to pray.
Regards,
P.S. Your success depends on how you decide and take action.
MA.
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2013 is gradually getting to an end. The excitement is everywhere to bid the year goodbye and welcome another glorious year. Everyone is preparing to shout "Happy New Year" and at the same time pronounce their new year resolutions merely i.e without proper documentation as to how to achieve the resolutions. Very few stick to their resolutions every year by accomplishing what they have pronounced or written down. You can check an article I once posted here about accomplishing your new year resolutions to be guided.
In response to my letter of request to God, I have been directed to pray for you (my humble followers and readers) as follows:
A. You shall be great.
B. God shall always be there for you.
C. You'll surely be successful in all your endeavour.
D. If you're single, you'll get an ideal spouse for an everlasting marital bliss.
E. If you're married, your marriage will not fail.
F. You'll be celebrated in the forthcoming year.
Did I hear you say a louder Amen to all these prayer? I'm sure you have shouted a resounding amen. I have the faith that all these shall come to pass only if you're ready to do what it takes to make them realistic. We cannot reap where we didn't not sow for neither God nor spirits will grant us that favour.
Kindly note that:
A. You shall be great only if you're ready to nurture your nature by awaken the seed of greatness in you. You have a particular ability, power, potential etc in you that must be developed. Plant this seed of greatness today.
B. God will always be there for you if you're ready to find Him. A portion that interest me in the Bible says "seek and you shall find, knock and it shall be opened."
C. You'll become successful if you're ready to do what it takes to be successful. Success requires a great deal of effort. And on the way to success island is failure. How prepare are you to cross this hurdle?
D. You can only get an ideal spouse if you're also ideal. The law of attraction holds here.
E. Your marriage will not fail if you can have a solid foundation for it.
F. You'll be celebrated in the forthcoming year if you can set your priority right. Setting your priority rights start with your new year resolution. Write down what you want to achieve, how you want to achieve them and when you want them achieved. You can use the SMART mnemonic of goal settings.
In conclusion,
I wish you whatever you wish yourself in the coming year and beyond. I must remind you that one or two articles have been posted in respect of the points discussed above. Take your time today to do a thorough review. Remember, we cannot reap where we did not sow for neither God nor spirits will grant us that favour and faith without work is........ God has thoughts of peace and not of evil for you, to give you a future and hope as recorded by Prophet Jeremiah in the Bible but you must do something to enjoy all these goodies even if it is to pray.
Regards,
P.S. Your success depends on how you decide and take action.
MA.
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UNDERSTANDING THE MAN IN YOUR LIFE.
No one is perfect and everyone has flaws but every woman wishes to have a real man or at least wants to assume that his man is real. The definition of a real man varies from person to person. One persons real man might be another persons reject. Some characters of a real man can be tolerate if a man does not possess them but if your man lack so many of these, ladies !...don't chase just replace. You will spare yourself from so many miserable life later on. But the question is, are you also a real woman? If you want real man in your life, you must strive to be a real woman as well. Remember the law of attraction which says "you'll attract what you are." Straight to business, a real man possess the following characters:
A real man fears God - he doesn't have to be a religious but a man with couscous feelings is a keeper
A real man reads - yes yes and yes
A real man tender apology - Being a REAL MAN requires having the sense to admit you did something wrong and apologise.
A real man can't be stolen- never ever think that other women threw themselves to him that was why he cheated with you. No, a real man can handle temptations and if he is cheating isn't your fault. He is just not real.
A real man doesn't cheat - true and the study finds that if a man is cheating more likely that a woman he cheats to with is less attract than a current partner.
A real man is strong - not necessarily strong to fight people but strong to stand up for what he believes.
A real man is focused - on power, money and family.
A real man doesn't gossip - Yes, he doesn't talk about things he doesn't know about or people he has never met.
A real man respect woman - Women are a man's better half. He chooses to honor, love, respect, adore and be faithful to one woman
A real man keeps it simple - He avoids complicating matters. If he's smart enough to know big words, he uses them rarely and appropriately.
A real man never buys sex - In a relationship or not. He believes in making love rather dumping his load in any hole that is conveniently available.
A real man is proud of and not threatened by empowered woman in his life.
A real man can defend himself - yes, you know what's missing in the world today? Leaders who have had to fight their way to the top.
A real man keeps his house in order - He makes sure everything is in working order, clean, and presentable
A real man strives to be a role model - He sets an example for his children to follow. It's not "do as I say, not as I do," but "do as I do."
A real man doesn't rape or hits women - he doesn't engage in rape or beat his woman.
A real man knows the importance of family - A real man keeps his family strong and passes on his family's history and traditions. He understands that his family's happiness comes first
A real man will add to your world, enhance it! Not take away.
A real man knows the difference between what's important and what isn't
A real man have taken their lumps and learned to defend themselves to succeed
A real man is not MACHO, he is honest and not full of ego
A real man does not want POWER, CONTROL for the injustice.
A real man makes decisions and lives with the consequences - yes they admit when they are wrong and deal with the outcomes.
A real man will always choose the straight path no matter the "little thing" he is planning.
A real man makes his own fortune - This means not relying on family or connections for a leg up. Instead he creates his own destiny also if inherits goods from his forefathers takes his inheritance and turns it into 10 times what it was.
In summary, A real man understands that women are to be cherished and treated with care and honour. He sees marriage as the opportunity to be a real-life superhero—he leaves behind his old identity and becomes a new person, dedicated to serving his wife and children. Although he will struggle at first, a true man who marries eventually understands that he can't fit through the narrow doorway to happiness if he tries to carry all of his toys with him. There is just enough room for him and his wife, arm in arm, committed to their marriage.
If you are frustrated with the man in your life, do your best to forgive him and start fresh. You can make the man in your life become real if you want to. Try to read all the articles I have posted in respect to relationship or marriage and the very special open letter written to you sometimes ago. After a while, if it's clear that he will not become a real man, leave him. You deserve better.
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Friday, 6 December 2013
LETTER OF REQUEST TO GOD.
Dear God,
I will like to say a very big thank you for everything you've been doing in my life, family and friends. You're truly bigger than what people say.
Straight to business, I trust you will get this letter wherever you are. I’m writing to you because I have a very special request. This isn’t your typical prayer because I’m not asking for something small. I’m also not asking for you to intervene and restore peace in the growing number of war torn countries (e.g the issue of Boko Haram in Nigeria), to end world hunger and poverty, to heal disease, or to make my dreams come true (although doing all of those would be awesome)…but I am asking for a miracle. In fact, this is the biggest, most significant, and most important thing I’ve ever asked for.
I want to know you.
Like really know you.
I want to know who you are, what you’re all about, and what you’re like.
I’ve spent my whole life being told by others who you are and who you’re not, what you are and what you’re not, how you are and how you’re not, and everything in between. I’ve been told where I would find you and where not even to bother looking. I’ve seen so many different depictions and pictures of you, and I’ve heard countless stories about you, including many people’s personal accounts of their experiences of you.
I’ve heard it said that you are Love and that I only need to look within to discover you. When I think about that, my heart lights up, and yet so many people become closed and shut down at the mere mention of your name. In my lifetime, I’ve also witnessed senseless tragedies and acts of violence committed in your name and several disasters signaling the decline of our planet and civilization. Some say that if you really existed, you would have intervened, and others say that these things have happened because we have created them with the free will that you gave us.
Throughout all of this, I admit that I’ve had my moments of doubting you and questioning you, but deep down in my heart and soul, my faith and belief in you have always remained strong.
Now I’m coming straight to you. I’m going to the source and asking you to let me get to know you, to reveal your true nature to me so that I might live in complete alignment with you and give my life to serving your purpose. That’s what I really want more than anything else, and in order to do that, I feel I really have to know you, and our connection has to be direct, personal, intimate, and undeniable.
I know there’s this tricky thing about faith, which says that true faith is measured by our belief in that which we haven’t seen, experienced, or had proof of.
I hear that, and I understand it.
Rest assured, this request is not a question of faith. I have faith. A heart full of it. I believe you are real. I know you exist. I have no doubt about that whatsoever. I am not asking for a sign or for proof of any of that.
I’m asking to know who you are. I want to feel your presence and recognize it the way a child knows his mother’s touch or the sound of his father’s voice. I want to know you so closely that I can be as cozy with you as I am with my best friends, knowing that you get me and that you are there for me even when I’m not making sense or going off the rails.
God, wherever you are and whoever you are, I’m ready to receive you with open arms and a heart full of love.
I’m ready to live my life to serve your purposes and to further your cause. With my own free will, I’m coming to you and asking you to let me in, let me see you, not obscured by others, no degrees of separation, completely revealed, as the true essence of who you are.
I am ready. I am listening. I love you.
MA.
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I will like to say a very big thank you for everything you've been doing in my life, family and friends. You're truly bigger than what people say.
Straight to business, I trust you will get this letter wherever you are. I’m writing to you because I have a very special request. This isn’t your typical prayer because I’m not asking for something small. I’m also not asking for you to intervene and restore peace in the growing number of war torn countries (e.g the issue of Boko Haram in Nigeria), to end world hunger and poverty, to heal disease, or to make my dreams come true (although doing all of those would be awesome)…but I am asking for a miracle. In fact, this is the biggest, most significant, and most important thing I’ve ever asked for.
I want to know you.
Like really know you.
I want to know who you are, what you’re all about, and what you’re like.
I’ve spent my whole life being told by others who you are and who you’re not, what you are and what you’re not, how you are and how you’re not, and everything in between. I’ve been told where I would find you and where not even to bother looking. I’ve seen so many different depictions and pictures of you, and I’ve heard countless stories about you, including many people’s personal accounts of their experiences of you.
I’ve heard it said that you are Love and that I only need to look within to discover you. When I think about that, my heart lights up, and yet so many people become closed and shut down at the mere mention of your name. In my lifetime, I’ve also witnessed senseless tragedies and acts of violence committed in your name and several disasters signaling the decline of our planet and civilization. Some say that if you really existed, you would have intervened, and others say that these things have happened because we have created them with the free will that you gave us.
Throughout all of this, I admit that I’ve had my moments of doubting you and questioning you, but deep down in my heart and soul, my faith and belief in you have always remained strong.
Now I’m coming straight to you. I’m going to the source and asking you to let me get to know you, to reveal your true nature to me so that I might live in complete alignment with you and give my life to serving your purpose. That’s what I really want more than anything else, and in order to do that, I feel I really have to know you, and our connection has to be direct, personal, intimate, and undeniable.
I know there’s this tricky thing about faith, which says that true faith is measured by our belief in that which we haven’t seen, experienced, or had proof of.
I hear that, and I understand it.
Rest assured, this request is not a question of faith. I have faith. A heart full of it. I believe you are real. I know you exist. I have no doubt about that whatsoever. I am not asking for a sign or for proof of any of that.
I’m asking to know who you are. I want to feel your presence and recognize it the way a child knows his mother’s touch or the sound of his father’s voice. I want to know you so closely that I can be as cozy with you as I am with my best friends, knowing that you get me and that you are there for me even when I’m not making sense or going off the rails.
God, wherever you are and whoever you are, I’m ready to receive you with open arms and a heart full of love.
I’m ready to live my life to serve your purposes and to further your cause. With my own free will, I’m coming to you and asking you to let me in, let me see you, not obscured by others, no degrees of separation, completely revealed, as the true essence of who you are.
I am ready. I am listening. I love you.
MA.
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NEVER REGRETS - WELCOME A NEW DAY.
I have not really planned to take a trip this year, yet I found myself packing anyway. And off I went, dreading it. I was on another trip.
I booked my reservation on "wish I had airlines."
I didn't check my bags - everyone carries their baggage on this airline - and had to drag it for what seemed like miles in the regret city airport. And I could see that people from all over the world were there with me, limping along the weight of bags they had packaged themselves.
I caught a cab to Last Resort Hotel after alighting from the plane; the driver taking the whole trip backward, looking over his shoulder. And there I found the ballroom where my event would be held: The Annual Pity Party. As I checked in, I saw that all my old colleagues were on the guest list.
The Done Family: coulda, woulda and shoulda.
Both of the opportunities: missed and lost.
All the yesterdays: they were too many to count, but all would have sad stories to tell or share. Shattered dreams and broken promises would be there too, along with their friends; Don't blame me and Couldn't help it.
And of course, hours and hours of entertainment would be provided by the renowned storyteller: It's their fault.
As I prepared to settle in for long night. I realized that one person had the power to send all those people home and break up the party: ME.
All I have to do is to return to the present and welcome the New day ! - If you have found yourself getting on a flight to the city of regret, recognize it's a trip you booked yourself and you can cancel it at anytime - without penalty or fee. But you are the only one who can.
All the yesterdays cannot make one tomorrow. And rosy thoughts about the future cannot exist when your mind is full of yesterdays' worries, regrets, pains, and unhappiness. According to Mike Murdock, "There is no future in the past." So stop looking at where you have been and start looking at where you can be. Stop poisoning your future with the pain of the past instead make a memory for tomorrow by welcoming a new day.
To your ultimate success, MA.
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I booked my reservation on "wish I had airlines."
I didn't check my bags - everyone carries their baggage on this airline - and had to drag it for what seemed like miles in the regret city airport. And I could see that people from all over the world were there with me, limping along the weight of bags they had packaged themselves.
I caught a cab to Last Resort Hotel after alighting from the plane; the driver taking the whole trip backward, looking over his shoulder. And there I found the ballroom where my event would be held: The Annual Pity Party. As I checked in, I saw that all my old colleagues were on the guest list.
The Done Family: coulda, woulda and shoulda.
Both of the opportunities: missed and lost.
All the yesterdays: they were too many to count, but all would have sad stories to tell or share. Shattered dreams and broken promises would be there too, along with their friends; Don't blame me and Couldn't help it.
And of course, hours and hours of entertainment would be provided by the renowned storyteller: It's their fault.
As I prepared to settle in for long night. I realized that one person had the power to send all those people home and break up the party: ME.
All I have to do is to return to the present and welcome the New day ! - If you have found yourself getting on a flight to the city of regret, recognize it's a trip you booked yourself and you can cancel it at anytime - without penalty or fee. But you are the only one who can.
All the yesterdays cannot make one tomorrow. And rosy thoughts about the future cannot exist when your mind is full of yesterdays' worries, regrets, pains, and unhappiness. According to Mike Murdock, "There is no future in the past." So stop looking at where you have been and start looking at where you can be. Stop poisoning your future with the pain of the past instead make a memory for tomorrow by welcoming a new day.
To your ultimate success, MA.
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22 HABITS OF HAPPY PEOPLE.
Many people spend their lives waiting to be happy. You may think, “if only I had more money,” or “could lose weight,” or you fill in the blank, then I would be happy.
Well here’s a secret: you can be happy right now. It’s not always easy, but you can choose to be happy, and in the vast majority of circumstances there’s no one who can stop you except for yourself.
The truth is, happiness doesn’t come from wealth, perfect looks or even a perfect relationship. Happiness comes from within. This is why, if you truly want to be happy, you need to work on yourself, first.
What’s the secret to being happy? You can learn how to do it, just as you can learn any other skill. Those who are happy tend to follow a certain set of habits that create peace in their lives; if you learn to apply these habits in your own life, there’s a good chance you’ll be happy too.
The featured article compiled 22 such behaviors that you can use to enhance your life and your happiness.
1. Let Go Of Grudges
Forgiving and forgetting is necessary for your own happiness, as holding a grudge means you’re also holding onto resentment, anger, hurt and other negative emotions that are standing in the way of your own happiness. Letting go of a grudge frees you from negativity and allows more space for positive emotions to fill in.
2. Treat Everyone With Kindness
Kindness is not only contagious, it’s also proven to make you happier. When you’re kind to others, your brain produces feel-good hormones and neurotransmitters like serotonin and you’re able to build strong relationships with others, fostering positive feelings all around.
3. Regard Your Problems As Challenges
Change your internal dialogue so that anytime you have a “problem” you view it as a challenge or a new opportunity to change your life for the better. Eliminate the word “problem” from your mind entirely.
4. Express Gratitude For What You Have
People who are thankful for what they have are better able to cope with stress, have more positive emotions, and are better able to reach their goals. The best way to harness the positive power of gratitude is to keep a gratitude journal or list, where you actively write down exactly what you’re grateful for each day. Doing so has been linked to happier moods, greater optimism and even better physical health.
5. Dream Big
Go ahead and dream big, as you’ll be more likely to accomplish your goals. Rather than limiting yourself, when you dream big you’re opening your mind to a more optimistic, positive state where you have the power to achieve virtually anything you desire.
6. Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
If the issue you’re mad about will be irrelevant a year, a month, a week or even a day from now, why sweat it? Happy people know how to let life’s daily irritations roll off their back.
7. Speak Well of Others
It may be tempting to gather around the office water cooler to get and give the daily gossip, but talking negatively about others is like taking a bath in negative emotions; your body soaks them up. Instead, make it a point to only say positive, nice words about other people, and you’ll help foster more positive thinking in your own life as well.
8. Avoid Making Excuses
It’s easy to blame others for your life’s failures, but doing so means you’re unlikely to rise past them. Happy people take responsibility for their mistakes and missteps, then use the failure as an opportunity to change for the better.
9. Live in The Present
Allow yourself to be immersed in whatever it is you’re doing right now, and take time to really be in the present moment. Avoid replaying past negative events in your head or worrying about the future; just savor what’s going on in your life now.
10. Wake Up At The Same Time Every Morning
Getting up at the same time every day (preferably an early time) is deceptively simple. Doing so will help regulate your circadian rhythm so you’ll have an easier time waking and likely feel more energized. Plus, the habit of rising early every day is one shared by many successful people, as it enhances your productivity and focus.
11. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
Your life is unique, so don’t measure your own worth by comparing yourself to those around you. Even regarding yourself as better than your peers is detrimental to your happiness, as you’re fostering judgmental feelings and an unhealthy sense of superiority. Measure your own success based on your progress alone, not that of others.
12. Surround Yourself With Positive People
The saying “misery loves company” is entirely true. That’s why you need to choose friends who are optimistic and happy themselves, as you will be surrounded with positive energy.
13. Realize That You Don’t Need Others’ Approval
It’s important to follow your own dreams and desires without letting naysayers stand in your way. It’s fine to seek others’ opinions, but happy people stay true to their own hearts and don’t get bogged down with the need for outside approval.
14. Take Time To Listen
Listening helps you soak in the wisdom of others and allows you to quiet your own mind at the same time. Intense listening can help you feel content while helping you gain different perspectives.
15. Nurture Social Relationships
Positive social relationships are a key to happiness, so be sure you make time to visit with friends, family and your significant other.
16. Meditate
Meditation helps you keep your mind focused, calms your nerves and supports inner peace. Research shows it can even lead to physical changes in your brain that make you happier.
17. Eat Well
What you eat directly impacts your mood and energy levels in both the short and long term. Whereas eating right can prime your body and brain to be in a focused, happy state, eating processed junk foods will leave you sluggish and prone to chronic disease. My free nutrition plan is an excellent tool to help you choose the best foods for both physical and emotional wellness.
18. Exercise
Exercise boosts levels of health-promoting brain chemicals like serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine, which may help buffer some of the effects of stress and also relieve some symptoms of depression. Rather than viewing exercise as a medical tool to lose weight, prevent disease, and live longer – all benefits that occur in the future – try viewing exercise as a daily tool to immediately enhance your frame of mind, reduce stress and feel happier.
19. Live Minimally
Clutter has a way of sucking the energy right out of you and replacing it with feelings of chaos. Clutter is an often-unrecognized source of stress that prompts feelings of anxiety, frustration, distraction and even guilt, so give your home and office a clutter makeover, purging it of the excess papers, files, knick knacks and other “stuff” that not only takes up space in your physical environment, but also in your mind.
20. Be Honest
Every time you lie, your stress levels are likely to increase and your self-esteem will crumble just a little bit more. Plus, if others find out you’re a liar it will damage your personal and professional relationships. Telling the truth, on the other hand, boosts your mental health and allows others to build trust in you.
21. Establish Personal Control
Avoid letting other people dictate the way you live. Instead, establish personal control in your life that allows you to fulfill your own goals and dreams, as well as a great sense of personal self-worth.
22. Accept What Cannot Be Changed
Everything in your life is not going to be perfect, and that’s perfectly all right. Happy people learn to accept injustices and setbacks in their life that they cannot change, and instead put their energy on changing what they can control for the better.
- Hungryforchange
Thank you for reading!
Please tweet or share this article.
Well here’s a secret: you can be happy right now. It’s not always easy, but you can choose to be happy, and in the vast majority of circumstances there’s no one who can stop you except for yourself.
The truth is, happiness doesn’t come from wealth, perfect looks or even a perfect relationship. Happiness comes from within. This is why, if you truly want to be happy, you need to work on yourself, first.
What’s the secret to being happy? You can learn how to do it, just as you can learn any other skill. Those who are happy tend to follow a certain set of habits that create peace in their lives; if you learn to apply these habits in your own life, there’s a good chance you’ll be happy too.
The featured article compiled 22 such behaviors that you can use to enhance your life and your happiness.
1. Let Go Of Grudges
Forgiving and forgetting is necessary for your own happiness, as holding a grudge means you’re also holding onto resentment, anger, hurt and other negative emotions that are standing in the way of your own happiness. Letting go of a grudge frees you from negativity and allows more space for positive emotions to fill in.
2. Treat Everyone With Kindness
Kindness is not only contagious, it’s also proven to make you happier. When you’re kind to others, your brain produces feel-good hormones and neurotransmitters like serotonin and you’re able to build strong relationships with others, fostering positive feelings all around.
3. Regard Your Problems As Challenges
Change your internal dialogue so that anytime you have a “problem” you view it as a challenge or a new opportunity to change your life for the better. Eliminate the word “problem” from your mind entirely.
4. Express Gratitude For What You Have
People who are thankful for what they have are better able to cope with stress, have more positive emotions, and are better able to reach their goals. The best way to harness the positive power of gratitude is to keep a gratitude journal or list, where you actively write down exactly what you’re grateful for each day. Doing so has been linked to happier moods, greater optimism and even better physical health.
5. Dream Big
Go ahead and dream big, as you’ll be more likely to accomplish your goals. Rather than limiting yourself, when you dream big you’re opening your mind to a more optimistic, positive state where you have the power to achieve virtually anything you desire.
6. Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
If the issue you’re mad about will be irrelevant a year, a month, a week or even a day from now, why sweat it? Happy people know how to let life’s daily irritations roll off their back.
7. Speak Well of Others
It may be tempting to gather around the office water cooler to get and give the daily gossip, but talking negatively about others is like taking a bath in negative emotions; your body soaks them up. Instead, make it a point to only say positive, nice words about other people, and you’ll help foster more positive thinking in your own life as well.
8. Avoid Making Excuses
It’s easy to blame others for your life’s failures, but doing so means you’re unlikely to rise past them. Happy people take responsibility for their mistakes and missteps, then use the failure as an opportunity to change for the better.
9. Live in The Present
Allow yourself to be immersed in whatever it is you’re doing right now, and take time to really be in the present moment. Avoid replaying past negative events in your head or worrying about the future; just savor what’s going on in your life now.
10. Wake Up At The Same Time Every Morning
Getting up at the same time every day (preferably an early time) is deceptively simple. Doing so will help regulate your circadian rhythm so you’ll have an easier time waking and likely feel more energized. Plus, the habit of rising early every day is one shared by many successful people, as it enhances your productivity and focus.
11. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
Your life is unique, so don’t measure your own worth by comparing yourself to those around you. Even regarding yourself as better than your peers is detrimental to your happiness, as you’re fostering judgmental feelings and an unhealthy sense of superiority. Measure your own success based on your progress alone, not that of others.
12. Surround Yourself With Positive People
The saying “misery loves company” is entirely true. That’s why you need to choose friends who are optimistic and happy themselves, as you will be surrounded with positive energy.
13. Realize That You Don’t Need Others’ Approval
It’s important to follow your own dreams and desires without letting naysayers stand in your way. It’s fine to seek others’ opinions, but happy people stay true to their own hearts and don’t get bogged down with the need for outside approval.
14. Take Time To Listen
Listening helps you soak in the wisdom of others and allows you to quiet your own mind at the same time. Intense listening can help you feel content while helping you gain different perspectives.
15. Nurture Social Relationships
Positive social relationships are a key to happiness, so be sure you make time to visit with friends, family and your significant other.
16. Meditate
Meditation helps you keep your mind focused, calms your nerves and supports inner peace. Research shows it can even lead to physical changes in your brain that make you happier.
17. Eat Well
What you eat directly impacts your mood and energy levels in both the short and long term. Whereas eating right can prime your body and brain to be in a focused, happy state, eating processed junk foods will leave you sluggish and prone to chronic disease. My free nutrition plan is an excellent tool to help you choose the best foods for both physical and emotional wellness.
18. Exercise
Exercise boosts levels of health-promoting brain chemicals like serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine, which may help buffer some of the effects of stress and also relieve some symptoms of depression. Rather than viewing exercise as a medical tool to lose weight, prevent disease, and live longer – all benefits that occur in the future – try viewing exercise as a daily tool to immediately enhance your frame of mind, reduce stress and feel happier.
19. Live Minimally
Clutter has a way of sucking the energy right out of you and replacing it with feelings of chaos. Clutter is an often-unrecognized source of stress that prompts feelings of anxiety, frustration, distraction and even guilt, so give your home and office a clutter makeover, purging it of the excess papers, files, knick knacks and other “stuff” that not only takes up space in your physical environment, but also in your mind.
20. Be Honest
Every time you lie, your stress levels are likely to increase and your self-esteem will crumble just a little bit more. Plus, if others find out you’re a liar it will damage your personal and professional relationships. Telling the truth, on the other hand, boosts your mental health and allows others to build trust in you.
21. Establish Personal Control
Avoid letting other people dictate the way you live. Instead, establish personal control in your life that allows you to fulfill your own goals and dreams, as well as a great sense of personal self-worth.
22. Accept What Cannot Be Changed
Everything in your life is not going to be perfect, and that’s perfectly all right. Happy people learn to accept injustices and setbacks in their life that they cannot change, and instead put their energy on changing what they can control for the better.
- Hungryforchange
Thank you for reading!
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Thursday, 5 December 2013
MAJOR DETERMINANTS OF A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE.
Let me start by saying that virtually all relationship problems derive from either: sex, money, or communication breakdowns.
At least one of these problems is involved in every divorce, or relationship challenge.
If you can blossom in these three areas, relational bliss will be yours, but let me fore warn you: “To succeed will require ‘work’ and ‘consistency’ from willing partners.” This article is not for the faint at heart, so here we go:
Sex
This is a topic that most couples are fearful to “properly” address, so let’s talk about it. I want to divide the topic of “sex” into two sub-topics:
The first sub-topic will relate to the “frequency” and “quality” of sex
The second sub-topic will relate to being “sexy,” or having a “sexy” appearance.
Frequency and Quality of Sex
The frequency and quality of sex is a major component of a successful marriage. If it wasn’t for sex, a lot of people wouldn’t bother getting married at all.
Sex is very therapeutic for a relationship, it’s a stress reliever and a bonding tool.
Frequent sex often happens when a husband has created an atmosphere suitable for sex to occur. Just like some animals like to mate in warm and moist climates. Most women like to “make love” in romantic and stress free climates.
I believe it’s largely the husband’s responsibility to create the “right climate” in the home, so that the very important act of sex can take place frequently.
When you combine the right atmosphere, with the education of the benefits of daily sex, magic is bound to happen.
As far as the “quality” of sex, you should take time to learn how to master your spouse body. No one should be able to “make love” to your spouse “better” than you; no one knows them better, no one knows what they like better; no hooker, pimp, or “Hoe” should be able to “out-do” you! That’s all I’ll say about that.
A Sexy Appearance
Although there’s a commandment that says you shouldn’t lust after your neighbour's wife, you should certainly lust after your own wife (or husband), and your spouse should give you something to lust after, if you know what I mean.
Of course everyone has different standards and measures as to what defines a sexy appearance, so I won’t offer you my definition. However, I will say that a sexy appearance definitely “matters,” especially to men (because men are such visual creatures). Let me break this one down for the women, (as an example), if you’ve put on lots of weight since the wedding, this could cause a silent problem in your marriage.
An expectation was created at the beginning of the relationship that is no longer being fulfilled. Whenever there are important changes in a relationship, it’s important for both parties to be in agreement. And additional weight is certainly a major change in the relationship that both parties need to agree on. Otherwise it can cause problems, sometimes silent problems (the most dangerous kind).
You’re responsible for making sure that you’re meeting your spouse’s expectations in this area.
Ask your spouse, if you’re real confident, to rank your “sexiness” on a scale of 1-10. Find out how you can improve your overall sex appeal. This is an often overlooked and under-talked about subject, so make sure you and your spouse are on the same page on this one.
Money
Money may not be that critical to men, but it’s certainly important to women (if they’re honest). Here are a few quotes to help put things in perspective:
“Women go crazy, when a man’s broke and lazy”
“Women get mean, when you ain’t got no green,” and “Your marriage will crash, when you ain’t got no cash.” “Loving without giving, just ain’t living” “Romance, without finance, doesn’t stand a chance.”
Now, of course I’m not being literal, but the point remains that money is an important part of your relationship.
This is why it’s important that we keep our finances in-order. “Order” means the accurate arrangement of things.
If you’re working with a limited income, then you’ll need to closely monitor all of your expenses; you’ll need to have order and precision in this area of your life in order to avoid relational turmoil.
Money is the “oil” of your relationship, it keeps things running smoothly. Somebody’s probably thinking, “Money won’t give you a ‘good’ relationship,” but that’s not the purpose of money. The purpose of money is to solve problems, having your finances in-order will give you the ability to address many of life’s problems without having to deal with the “stress” of not having enough to take care of your needs.
Either you or your spouse should be in charge of making sure that you aren’t living above your means; this is crucial. You should meet at least monthly to discuss your spending, saving, and investing.
In addition, you need to have a vision and a plan for the future of your finances. Isaiah wrote, “Without a vision, the people perish,” I believe that without a vision for your money, your money will perish, so plan a future for your money.
Maybe you’re not rich yet, but you’re certainly capable of attaining riches in your lifetime!
A husband and a wife on the same page can accomplish amazing things, but a house divided cannot stand. Decide to keep your finances in order; this will solve many unnecessary problems.
Communication
Communication is the “foundation” of all relationships! Without regular open and honest communication the foundation of your relationship will begin to weaken. A weak foundation won’t be able to withstand the test and trials that relationships must sometimes endure. Open and honest communication makes for a very “strong foundation,” a foundation that will stand firm.
This is why my fiance and I discuss everything; we’re each other’s best friend. We have no secrets; there are no walls between us. She doesn’t talk to her friends about my imperfections; she talks to me about them, because I’m the only one who can do something about them.
If you talk to her about something, there’s a good chance I’ll eventually find out about it. Not because I’m nosey, but it will most likely “come-up” in our conversation (because we discuss every detail of our day with each other).
I don’t have a problem with my fiance going through my wallet or digging through my pockets or looking at my cell phone.
I don’t have any issues with telling her what I’m thinking; open and honest communication strengthens our bond. There should be no secrets, there should be no walls!
Remember: If you don’t have a strong foundation, your house may not stand. Put it another way, if your relationship isn’t built on open and honest communication, it may end in divorce.
Communication is the rock that your relationship is built on. So what should you communicate about?
Your Expectations
Your Level of Satisfaction or Dissatisfaction
Your Wants
Your Needs
Your Day
Your Thoughts
Your Appreciation or Lack There Of
The Best Way and the Best Time to Handle Disagreements
As a way of opening up the lines of communication you can play the “honesty game,” where for five minutes you can ask each other whatever you want, and the other person has to be completely honest in their response. This is a great way to begin practising open and honest communication.
Labour for open and honest communication; don’t let anything come between your communication, not your children, your friends, or misunderstandings. Your communication is the foundation that your relationship is built on. No house can stand without a foundation.
The Conclusion
So there you have it, I could honestly write pages and pages on each of these subjects, but I won’t (at least not today). This article should give you a good “outline” as to the three areas you need to focus on to improve your relationship.
If you focus on these areas, and if you work hard, you will see massive improvements.
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At least one of these problems is involved in every divorce, or relationship challenge.
If you can blossom in these three areas, relational bliss will be yours, but let me fore warn you: “To succeed will require ‘work’ and ‘consistency’ from willing partners.” This article is not for the faint at heart, so here we go:
Sex
This is a topic that most couples are fearful to “properly” address, so let’s talk about it. I want to divide the topic of “sex” into two sub-topics:
The first sub-topic will relate to the “frequency” and “quality” of sex
The second sub-topic will relate to being “sexy,” or having a “sexy” appearance.
Frequency and Quality of Sex
The frequency and quality of sex is a major component of a successful marriage. If it wasn’t for sex, a lot of people wouldn’t bother getting married at all.
Sex is very therapeutic for a relationship, it’s a stress reliever and a bonding tool.
Frequent sex often happens when a husband has created an atmosphere suitable for sex to occur. Just like some animals like to mate in warm and moist climates. Most women like to “make love” in romantic and stress free climates.
I believe it’s largely the husband’s responsibility to create the “right climate” in the home, so that the very important act of sex can take place frequently.
When you combine the right atmosphere, with the education of the benefits of daily sex, magic is bound to happen.
As far as the “quality” of sex, you should take time to learn how to master your spouse body. No one should be able to “make love” to your spouse “better” than you; no one knows them better, no one knows what they like better; no hooker, pimp, or “Hoe” should be able to “out-do” you! That’s all I’ll say about that.
A Sexy Appearance
Although there’s a commandment that says you shouldn’t lust after your neighbour's wife, you should certainly lust after your own wife (or husband), and your spouse should give you something to lust after, if you know what I mean.
Of course everyone has different standards and measures as to what defines a sexy appearance, so I won’t offer you my definition. However, I will say that a sexy appearance definitely “matters,” especially to men (because men are such visual creatures). Let me break this one down for the women, (as an example), if you’ve put on lots of weight since the wedding, this could cause a silent problem in your marriage.
An expectation was created at the beginning of the relationship that is no longer being fulfilled. Whenever there are important changes in a relationship, it’s important for both parties to be in agreement. And additional weight is certainly a major change in the relationship that both parties need to agree on. Otherwise it can cause problems, sometimes silent problems (the most dangerous kind).
You’re responsible for making sure that you’re meeting your spouse’s expectations in this area.
Ask your spouse, if you’re real confident, to rank your “sexiness” on a scale of 1-10. Find out how you can improve your overall sex appeal. This is an often overlooked and under-talked about subject, so make sure you and your spouse are on the same page on this one.
Money
Money may not be that critical to men, but it’s certainly important to women (if they’re honest). Here are a few quotes to help put things in perspective:
“Women go crazy, when a man’s broke and lazy”
“Women get mean, when you ain’t got no green,” and “Your marriage will crash, when you ain’t got no cash.” “Loving without giving, just ain’t living” “Romance, without finance, doesn’t stand a chance.”
Now, of course I’m not being literal, but the point remains that money is an important part of your relationship.
This is why it’s important that we keep our finances in-order. “Order” means the accurate arrangement of things.
If you’re working with a limited income, then you’ll need to closely monitor all of your expenses; you’ll need to have order and precision in this area of your life in order to avoid relational turmoil.
Money is the “oil” of your relationship, it keeps things running smoothly. Somebody’s probably thinking, “Money won’t give you a ‘good’ relationship,” but that’s not the purpose of money. The purpose of money is to solve problems, having your finances in-order will give you the ability to address many of life’s problems without having to deal with the “stress” of not having enough to take care of your needs.
Either you or your spouse should be in charge of making sure that you aren’t living above your means; this is crucial. You should meet at least monthly to discuss your spending, saving, and investing.
In addition, you need to have a vision and a plan for the future of your finances. Isaiah wrote, “Without a vision, the people perish,” I believe that without a vision for your money, your money will perish, so plan a future for your money.
Maybe you’re not rich yet, but you’re certainly capable of attaining riches in your lifetime!
A husband and a wife on the same page can accomplish amazing things, but a house divided cannot stand. Decide to keep your finances in order; this will solve many unnecessary problems.
Communication
Communication is the “foundation” of all relationships! Without regular open and honest communication the foundation of your relationship will begin to weaken. A weak foundation won’t be able to withstand the test and trials that relationships must sometimes endure. Open and honest communication makes for a very “strong foundation,” a foundation that will stand firm.
This is why my fiance and I discuss everything; we’re each other’s best friend. We have no secrets; there are no walls between us. She doesn’t talk to her friends about my imperfections; she talks to me about them, because I’m the only one who can do something about them.
If you talk to her about something, there’s a good chance I’ll eventually find out about it. Not because I’m nosey, but it will most likely “come-up” in our conversation (because we discuss every detail of our day with each other).
I don’t have a problem with my fiance going through my wallet or digging through my pockets or looking at my cell phone.
I don’t have any issues with telling her what I’m thinking; open and honest communication strengthens our bond. There should be no secrets, there should be no walls!
Remember: If you don’t have a strong foundation, your house may not stand. Put it another way, if your relationship isn’t built on open and honest communication, it may end in divorce.
Communication is the rock that your relationship is built on. So what should you communicate about?
Your Expectations
Your Level of Satisfaction or Dissatisfaction
Your Wants
Your Needs
Your Day
Your Thoughts
Your Appreciation or Lack There Of
The Best Way and the Best Time to Handle Disagreements
As a way of opening up the lines of communication you can play the “honesty game,” where for five minutes you can ask each other whatever you want, and the other person has to be completely honest in their response. This is a great way to begin practising open and honest communication.
Labour for open and honest communication; don’t let anything come between your communication, not your children, your friends, or misunderstandings. Your communication is the foundation that your relationship is built on. No house can stand without a foundation.
The Conclusion
So there you have it, I could honestly write pages and pages on each of these subjects, but I won’t (at least not today). This article should give you a good “outline” as to the three areas you need to focus on to improve your relationship.
If you focus on these areas, and if you work hard, you will see massive improvements.
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Tuesday, 3 December 2013
DIVORCE IS NOT THE SOLUTION.
This maybe the most important article you ever read! So give me a few moments to build my case.
You see, a lot of people got married because they thought they got a “great” deal, after a few years they realized they got a “raw” deal, and now they’re looking for a “new” deal.
After you finish reading this article, you’ll recognize that you don’t need a “new” deal. You’ll know that you already have what’s necessary for an amazing marriage with your “current” spouse. This article will give you the secret to bringing out the “best” in them, as well as the “best” in you, that’s why I wrote it.
The Secret to a Happy Marriage
You may be thinking, if I had married Brainard, or Cynthia, or “so-and-so,” things would be great, because they’re just like me! But that’s not the answer at all! Probably the worse thing you can do is to marry somebody just like yourself, you’d probably drive each other crazy.
And another side-point, before we get into the lesson…
Some husbands think that it’s time to divorce their wife because their wife is not that good in bed or romantic enough, talk a lot, a shy type, increase in weight among others. I want to discuss such topics in this article.
I also would like to know how that husband’s “six-pack” is coming along. I hope he’s not walking around looking like he’s “seven-months pregnant,” while giving “weight-loss” advice to his wife. As the quote goes, be the change you want to see.
Okay, enough side-points, lets get right to it.
The Problem in Marriage
Here’s the problem: When most people get married, they mistakenly think they’ve finished the race. Little do they know, the “war” has just begun.
What use to excite them about their partner, now bothers them, what they didn’t see before, is now driving them insane!
One person wants to save, one person wants to spend. One person wants to eat fried rice; one person wants to eat jollof rice . One person wants it hot, one person wants it cold. One person wants to go out; one person wants to stay in.
The differences!
But, these “differences” are for our growth, not for our detriment; contrary to popular opinion and public debate. If nothing else, we should be growing increasingly patient because of these “differences,” but that’s just the beginning of this growth process.
The Recommendation
How do I recommend you deal with these differences? I think you have to first recognize the purpose of marriage, which is growth and development! This is why opposites attract. You were designed by your creator to attract a mate who is opposite of you to help ensure your own growth and development.
The “differences” that you and your spouse possess should serve to challenge you and make you better. This is why marriage takes work.
When you got married, you really entered a “relationship” boot camp! You thought you entered a relationship “paradise,” but you were misinformed, it was really a relationship boot camp that you signed-up for, and you did so even unaware. But that’s okay, because life is about growth.
The Boot Camp
There’s good news: If you learn the rules of the boot camp, the boot camp won’t break you, it will make you superior, it will make you stronger, it will cause you to grow-up into the person that you were created to be. It will reveal the best in you; this boot camp will provide you the opportunity to have an “amazing marriage,” if you pass its test.
But people don’t like boot camp! That’s why you hear a lot of married people say, “If I was single again…” they say, “Somehow, if I could be single (through some stroke of luck), I wouldn’t get married again; I’d just date.” What I hear from this is, “I don’t want to go to boot camp,” I don’t want to face the “demons” in my closet! I don’t want someone confronting my selfishness and putting “pressure” on me to grow-up.
That’s what marriage is in the beginning, and maybe forever if you never address the issues. It’s “pressure,” and if you know anything about building a better body, you know that it takes pressure to cause your muscles to develop. Pressure has the ability to make you stronger, …so quit running away from the pressure.
When problems arise, it’s not time to run out the room; it’s time to deal with the pressure. I said, “It’s time to deal with the pressure,” if you want to be better, if you want your marriage to be its best, you have to deal with the pressure! Are you going to pass the test?
You think you need a divorce, what you really need is a good argument. You need to uncover (quit hiding) the expectations that you have of each other, and deal with them, name them one-by-one. I’m convinced that the number one problem in marriage is unmet expectations. So you need to uncover and meet the respective expectations that you both have…. If you do this, your marriage will grow stronger.
Those arguments, debates, heated conversations, what have you, will not cause you to grow apart, if you handle them appropriately and respectfully. They will become instruments or tools that will bring you together, if you embrace them.
Don’t run from your opportunity to be better, don’t skip the training period! You want to be married without training; you want to be married without a merging of your two-worlds. Sometimes you have to rock the boat, if you want to experience “still” waters. God-dog-it, rock the boat!
The secret to marriage is to “grow-up,” the purpose of marriage, as is the purpose of life, is to grow-up and become what you were designed to become. Trying to become single after you’re married is just a way of saying “I don’t want to grow-up.”
Some of you are trying to get a new marriage, and you can’t handle the boot camp you’re in right now: Your spouse has just “two” issues they need to resolve. You all have worked for ten years to resolve so many issues. You don’t need a new set of issues; deal with “two” issues you have left. Don’t run from the test!
If you run that means you didn’t pass the test! I said, “If you run, that means you didn’t pass the test!” You’re going to have to repeat the grade.
The key is to pass the test, face the test for what it is, recognize that this is your training for life and the necessary requirement for a great marriage. If you can unravel this riddle, then you can have a beautiful marriage, say “I want to pass the test!” Don’t keep going around the mountain, make up your mind to climb the mountain once and for all.
The Side Note
Okay….I mentioned the weight issue in my opening paragraph, so let me address that here….If you’re so unhappy with your spouse being overweight, then go workout with them. If you’re that concerned, help them. Use that opportunity as your training ground to make your family better.
If you don’t like the way you’re being treated, don’t lash out at the other person, teach them, patiently train them; become better together, don’t run from your training!
The truth is, your spouse isn’t that bad, they married you didn’t they; they can’t be that bad. You’re not a perfect “10” married to a “2,” if they’re a “2,” you’re probably a “2” as well, otherwise you wouldn’t have attracted them. Some of you all think you’re a “10” married to a “2,” you out of your mind?; you better be happy with what you got.
Instead of trying to get a new deal, your challenge is to grow together. If you’re both “5s,” then your challenge in life is to become “10s” together. You don’t “need” to be single, being single will only suffocate your personal growth. When you’re single, you don’t have to mature in a lot of areas, you don’t have to be any better, no one is going to question you. If you feel like eating a carton of ice-cream for dinner, you’re free to do so, but that won’t make you any better, …and you want to be better.
Don’t run away from your development, some people have been running for 30 years from their development, it’s time to develop, it’s time to grow. Tell your spouse that we’re sticking this thing out together, tell them “I’m not going anywhere, and guess what, you’re not going anywhere either, we’re going to work this thing out.” We’re going to grow, we’re going to develop, and we’re going to become all that we are destined to become.
The Conclusion
It’s time to become who you are, as it is written, the twain shall be one. As “one,” you can do so much more; two people on the same page, moving in the right direction, can change the world. They’ll be that power couple; they’ll be fulfilled, happy, and living on purpose, they’ll be a sign, pointing the way, to what marriage should be.
Thank you for reading, and please pass this article along to couples and others.
You can leave your comment as regards your opinion. Feel free to share on facebook, tweet, BBM etc.
To your successful bliss,
MA.
You see, a lot of people got married because they thought they got a “great” deal, after a few years they realized they got a “raw” deal, and now they’re looking for a “new” deal.
After you finish reading this article, you’ll recognize that you don’t need a “new” deal. You’ll know that you already have what’s necessary for an amazing marriage with your “current” spouse. This article will give you the secret to bringing out the “best” in them, as well as the “best” in you, that’s why I wrote it.
The Secret to a Happy Marriage
You may be thinking, if I had married Brainard, or Cynthia, or “so-and-so,” things would be great, because they’re just like me! But that’s not the answer at all! Probably the worse thing you can do is to marry somebody just like yourself, you’d probably drive each other crazy.
And another side-point, before we get into the lesson…
Some husbands think that it’s time to divorce their wife because their wife is not that good in bed or romantic enough, talk a lot, a shy type, increase in weight among others. I want to discuss such topics in this article.
I also would like to know how that husband’s “six-pack” is coming along. I hope he’s not walking around looking like he’s “seven-months pregnant,” while giving “weight-loss” advice to his wife. As the quote goes, be the change you want to see.
Okay, enough side-points, lets get right to it.
The Problem in Marriage
Here’s the problem: When most people get married, they mistakenly think they’ve finished the race. Little do they know, the “war” has just begun.
What use to excite them about their partner, now bothers them, what they didn’t see before, is now driving them insane!
One person wants to save, one person wants to spend. One person wants to eat fried rice; one person wants to eat jollof rice . One person wants it hot, one person wants it cold. One person wants to go out; one person wants to stay in.
The differences!
But, these “differences” are for our growth, not for our detriment; contrary to popular opinion and public debate. If nothing else, we should be growing increasingly patient because of these “differences,” but that’s just the beginning of this growth process.
The Recommendation
How do I recommend you deal with these differences? I think you have to first recognize the purpose of marriage, which is growth and development! This is why opposites attract. You were designed by your creator to attract a mate who is opposite of you to help ensure your own growth and development.
The “differences” that you and your spouse possess should serve to challenge you and make you better. This is why marriage takes work.
When you got married, you really entered a “relationship” boot camp! You thought you entered a relationship “paradise,” but you were misinformed, it was really a relationship boot camp that you signed-up for, and you did so even unaware. But that’s okay, because life is about growth.
The Boot Camp
There’s good news: If you learn the rules of the boot camp, the boot camp won’t break you, it will make you superior, it will make you stronger, it will cause you to grow-up into the person that you were created to be. It will reveal the best in you; this boot camp will provide you the opportunity to have an “amazing marriage,” if you pass its test.
But people don’t like boot camp! That’s why you hear a lot of married people say, “If I was single again…” they say, “Somehow, if I could be single (through some stroke of luck), I wouldn’t get married again; I’d just date.” What I hear from this is, “I don’t want to go to boot camp,” I don’t want to face the “demons” in my closet! I don’t want someone confronting my selfishness and putting “pressure” on me to grow-up.
That’s what marriage is in the beginning, and maybe forever if you never address the issues. It’s “pressure,” and if you know anything about building a better body, you know that it takes pressure to cause your muscles to develop. Pressure has the ability to make you stronger, …so quit running away from the pressure.
When problems arise, it’s not time to run out the room; it’s time to deal with the pressure. I said, “It’s time to deal with the pressure,” if you want to be better, if you want your marriage to be its best, you have to deal with the pressure! Are you going to pass the test?
You think you need a divorce, what you really need is a good argument. You need to uncover (quit hiding) the expectations that you have of each other, and deal with them, name them one-by-one. I’m convinced that the number one problem in marriage is unmet expectations. So you need to uncover and meet the respective expectations that you both have…. If you do this, your marriage will grow stronger.
Those arguments, debates, heated conversations, what have you, will not cause you to grow apart, if you handle them appropriately and respectfully. They will become instruments or tools that will bring you together, if you embrace them.
Don’t run from your opportunity to be better, don’t skip the training period! You want to be married without training; you want to be married without a merging of your two-worlds. Sometimes you have to rock the boat, if you want to experience “still” waters. God-dog-it, rock the boat!
The secret to marriage is to “grow-up,” the purpose of marriage, as is the purpose of life, is to grow-up and become what you were designed to become. Trying to become single after you’re married is just a way of saying “I don’t want to grow-up.”
Some of you are trying to get a new marriage, and you can’t handle the boot camp you’re in right now: Your spouse has just “two” issues they need to resolve. You all have worked for ten years to resolve so many issues. You don’t need a new set of issues; deal with “two” issues you have left. Don’t run from the test!
If you run that means you didn’t pass the test! I said, “If you run, that means you didn’t pass the test!” You’re going to have to repeat the grade.
The key is to pass the test, face the test for what it is, recognize that this is your training for life and the necessary requirement for a great marriage. If you can unravel this riddle, then you can have a beautiful marriage, say “I want to pass the test!” Don’t keep going around the mountain, make up your mind to climb the mountain once and for all.
The Side Note
Okay….I mentioned the weight issue in my opening paragraph, so let me address that here….If you’re so unhappy with your spouse being overweight, then go workout with them. If you’re that concerned, help them. Use that opportunity as your training ground to make your family better.
If you don’t like the way you’re being treated, don’t lash out at the other person, teach them, patiently train them; become better together, don’t run from your training!
The truth is, your spouse isn’t that bad, they married you didn’t they; they can’t be that bad. You’re not a perfect “10” married to a “2,” if they’re a “2,” you’re probably a “2” as well, otherwise you wouldn’t have attracted them. Some of you all think you’re a “10” married to a “2,” you out of your mind?; you better be happy with what you got.
Instead of trying to get a new deal, your challenge is to grow together. If you’re both “5s,” then your challenge in life is to become “10s” together. You don’t “need” to be single, being single will only suffocate your personal growth. When you’re single, you don’t have to mature in a lot of areas, you don’t have to be any better, no one is going to question you. If you feel like eating a carton of ice-cream for dinner, you’re free to do so, but that won’t make you any better, …and you want to be better.
Don’t run away from your development, some people have been running for 30 years from their development, it’s time to develop, it’s time to grow. Tell your spouse that we’re sticking this thing out together, tell them “I’m not going anywhere, and guess what, you’re not going anywhere either, we’re going to work this thing out.” We’re going to grow, we’re going to develop, and we’re going to become all that we are destined to become.
The Conclusion
It’s time to become who you are, as it is written, the twain shall be one. As “one,” you can do so much more; two people on the same page, moving in the right direction, can change the world. They’ll be that power couple; they’ll be fulfilled, happy, and living on purpose, they’ll be a sign, pointing the way, to what marriage should be.
Thank you for reading, and please pass this article along to couples and others.
You can leave your comment as regards your opinion. Feel free to share on facebook, tweet, BBM etc.
To your successful bliss,
MA.
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