DESPERATE MAN. WHY THE RUSH? PART 3

You want to marry her asap. Why? Because you don't want to lose her. Why? "Too many things at stake."

You differences are so fundamental. You can't stand so many things about her. The reasons why you're struggling with the thought of marrying her includes: (1) because you want to marry (2) because of her beauty and (3) because of her affluent. These and many more are the many things at stake I guess. All these despite the fact that she slushes you up stylishly - essentially puts you down when you talk.

She's a focused lady alright but you're nonetheless unhappy with her and it's obvious you don't love her because of her be-hav-iour.

You have a lady who is not up to her standard and whom you both love each other deeply but because of your covetousness, you don't want to go for her. Though, she is beautiful, tolerant, listen to you when you talk, focussed also, and caring but she's zero in term of wealth.

Let me be honest with you; you are shopping for marriage, the implications of which will soon become unbearable. Why can't you build your own wealth instead of marrying someone you don't love or have you been told you cannot make it in life? Don't you think this marriage or relationship won't last a year?

As a result of her own desperation to get engaged or married, she do tell you, "Honey, all I own is yours." And foolish enough you believe this. She want to marry you because of reasons best known to her and not because you have what it takes. I'm sure when you get married, the name honey will take a downturn.

I must tell you the blunt truth in marriage, you're not compatible and you know it. Don't be surprised when her parent called you a gold digger or pauper. That's your real name. You can't reap where you did not sow. For neither God nor the spirits will grant us that favour.

Since you don't love her, let her go in peace and not in pieces. Leaving her in pieces is when you can't tolerate her again and the only decision is to walk out of the marriage.

Don't be too desperate. Grow, mature in wisdom, learn about life, get your bearing, resolve your fears, resolve yourself and develop character. In the absence of all these, enjoy your singularity. When the time comes, you'll know and when the man or woman comes,you'll know.

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